How to setup a threesome

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pialox · 2025-09-09T12:06:07+00:00

Yup. Girlfriend (now wife) had a friend who we had multiple threesomes with.

My suggestion would be to just let it happen naturally as it seems it is going to eventuate at some point.

Let them initiate and don’t force it or be creepy about it. A house party situation might be difficult with others being there. But if it’s the three of you left at the end of the night. There is likely a reason her friend is sticking around.

Don’t force it. Just let them have fun, they will do warming up themselves.

Side note: “the opposite of what she told me earlier”. Never listen to what a women says, listen to what she does.

cl1p5 · 2025-09-09T13:30:10+00:00

The only advice about threesomes is make sure you pay your girl the most attention.

To make it happen follow these steps.

1st You need them both cuddling you.

2nd You have to be touching both of them.

3rd Initiate something sexual with your gf in front of her friend.

4th her friend needs to be aroused by what your doing to your gf.

5th while touching her friend not too sexually (sexual intent but not the action) you need to get permission from your gf.

While looking at her friend ask your gf if you can kiss her. Then you ask them to kiss each other.

MijoKK · 2025-09-09T12:04:39+00:00

Sounds good, your gf just needs some reasurement

ScottNoWhat · 2025-09-09T12:11:23+00:00

Threesome would definitely make the dynamic of the relationship awkward, especially if they just act gay when drunk.

If it comes up again, say all in or nothing. Commit to a threeway relationship so it’s nothing but threesomes.

Aktive_IV · 2025-09-09T12:53:07+00:00

I swear dudes always be on the let the girl bring it up let her make it happen.. like nah if your assertive & bring it up in a smooth way you can definitely make it happen playa.

bundleofjoy_f2f · 2025-09-09T12:28:39+00:00

maybe have a conversation again with your girlfriend and put it all on the table, both the curiosity and the confusion. ask her what her thoughts are. and to clarify some more the three of you (or maybe just your gf alone?) could talk to Ana about it.

in my experience a threesome with a friend could be a lot of fun, bc there is already comfort and safety. but!! talk about it! talk about the dynamic you want between the three of you, about boundaries, expectations etc. because not having clear communication can eventually fuck things up.

hope this helps a little bit with your journey!

three_dead_trolls · 2025-09-09T14:34:11+00:00

'you don't get to grind my gf without me' 😂. That a boy. The force is def strong with you good sir.

Yamochao · 2025-09-09T17:39:51+00:00

Wow, garbage advice in this thread.

I've had FFM threesomes with I think 9 different groups and was in a triad for a while. Every single time it happened with advanced discussion and enthusiastic consent w/ the woman I was partnered with (if there was one).

Imo, if they're not into it, don't try to make it happen, absolutely do not try to start something without talking to your partner privately ahead of time and getting her enthusiastic consent.

If you pressure her into it, everyone is going to have a bad time later, very likely in the middle of the action, and it probably won't happen anyways. Most people aren't going to feel comfortable getting physical with their friend's partner in front of them on the off-chance that they're into it.

Golden rule: If you have a pre-existing relationship with one of the other people in the group, it pretty much has to be enthusiastically initiated by the same-gendered, partnered person. And honestly, it's going to go a lot better if they test the waters ahead of time by asking their friend if she finds you attractive, would be interested in all messing around together, etc.

Life isn't porn, threesomes involve real feelings with real, nuanced relationships. The friend could lose a friendship and commit a major faux-pax, your girlfriend could have intense feelings of regret, jealousy, damage the relationship with you AND friend.

You have the lowest emotional/social stakes here and you need to recognize that and be empathetic and ethical. Ask your girlfriend to test the waters, and if it's not a vibe, drop it.

Enough-One5366 · 2025-09-09T18:38:41+00:00

Bro, you’re living in a sitcom written by horny philosophers. One minute it’s “don’t ruin the friendship,” next minute it’s “we should’ve invited Ana home.” Plot twists like Game of Thrones but with tequila. At the house party, just vibe like a gentleman diplomat. No pressure, no pitch just let the wine flow and the universe decide. If it happens, great. If not, at least you didn’t get labeled the threesome campaign manager. Good luck, Commander of the Sandwich Formation. 🍞👩

AlastairXXL · 2025-09-09T12:33:20+00:00

Wait it till they are drunk suggest they make out and esculate it from there

Erics1987 · 2025-09-09T16:59:51+00:00

I'd skip it.

Sad_Landscape_7851 · 2025-09-09T12:06:35+00:00

It's easy to pull off if if you're a confident man but if you are a weenie you may lose your gf and the other girl in the process. You need to talk to them like you are a real man and demand it from them. Coach them through because it can be awkward and always finish on your gf and not the other girl

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-09-09T12:06:52+00:00

Don't listen to them, lead. Only listen when they're uncomfy

Unable_Analysis6964 · 2025-09-09T11:59:32+00:00

wtf is wrong w u🤣

Title	How to setup a threesome
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