TLDR: There are three primary ways to sexualize a conversation: 1) Say something about your own sexuality that does not involve her, 2) indicate you want to have sex with her but include something in the statement that she will need to overcome some challenge before she can fuck you, and 3) make sexual jokes.

If you want to have sex with a woman, you must do or say something early in the interaction to make clear your interest is sexual and not platonic. If you never make clear you want to fuck, she will either 1) think you are not interested in sex with her, or 2) you are too weak and not confident enough to make clear you want to have sex with her. Either way, you look bad. If you try to sell yourself as some kind of sexless eunuch and then later try to fuck her, she will see you as a manipulative liar or weirdo.

You can make clear you want to have sex with a woman from the context, body language, and eye contact. If you approach a woman at a nightclub and start dancing with her and touching her, you do not need to say anything to make clear you want to have sex with her – it is kind of implied from the context. But in other situations, you may need to say something to make clear you want to fuck.

The problem with sexualizing a conversation, however, is that it puts pressure on the woman. The male sex drive is much more stronger, focused, and immediate than the female sex drive, so when a man makes clear he wants to fuck a woman she starts to feel like he might be some kind of insane zombie that will stop at nothing to get in her pants. When most men show sexual interest, they do so in a creepy, unrelenting, annoying, zombie-like way, so if you show sexual interest she may also assume you are being the same way, even if you are not.

The key, therefore, is to say something challenging in your sexual statement to make her think that she needs to overcome some kind of obstacle before she can fuck you. Being challenging accomplishes several things: 1) it makes you seem more high-value, like you are the prize and she is chasing you, 2) it excites her because humans love conquering challenges, and 3) it takes pressure off of her because it puts the onus on her to do something to make sex happen. Because a challenging statement explicitly states that she CANNOT have sex with you until she overcomes some burden, it makes the game a “choose your own adventure” for her, which makes her feel better and more comfortable.

The challenge must be a very small speedbump, however. If the challenge is too big or insulting, the woman will feel rejected and go look for another guy who does want to fuck her. So obviously don’t say anything like “I would totally fuck you, but you need to lose 10 pounds first.” Humans are most motivated when we feel like the prize is attainable and close, and we just need to do one small thing to get there. If a woman feels like you are making her jump through hoops to have sex with you, she will get frustrated and lose interest. At the same time, the challenge must not end until you actually have sex with her. If you act a little challenging and then give in and make clear you want to have sex with her no matter what, she will lose interest. The ultimate vibe you want to give is “maybe – but only if you act right.”

The challenging statement must be something playful and light-hearted, so she does not actually feel rejected. Here are some examples, but you must calibrate the level of challenge to your specific situation and context:

“I think you are so hot, but you might be a little too crazy for me.”

“You’re an Aries? I’m a Leo, I don’t think we’re not compatible.”

“You’re 22! You’re too young for me.”

“You are way too hot for this club, but you might be a little too crazy for me.”

The human ego cannot take “no” for an answer, so when you say this shit women will often protest and want to argue with you. Great! Now she is arguing about why she is good enough to be with you. Your answer to these argument is always again “we’ll see.”

If a woman says something sexual to you, you need to keep up the challenge, by saying things like:

“We’ll see.”

“That’s tempting, but I don’t know.”

“If you’re lucky.”

Another thing you can and should do is talk about yourself in a sexual way, but not directed at her. That shows you are unapologetic about your sexuality, but still maintains a challenge because you have not said you want to fuck HER yet. For example, I approached some women the other night at a bar and we started talking about clubs in the city, and they brought up a club called Vandal. I responded, “I love Vandal, it’s one of the easiest places in the city to get laid.” Now most guys would be reluctant to say this to women because they do not want to look like a creep that goes to clubs to get laid, but here is the thing: women KNOW men go to clubs to get laid, so saying it just means you are more honest and trustworthy than the other guys they know. And in that moment, the women said “wow, I love your honesty. Most guys wouldn’t say that.” And then we launched into a conversation about sex and how most guys are creeps because they don’t show their sexual desire. At the end of the conversation, I told them “like, I’m not going to lie to you, I am talking to you because I might want to fuck you later.” The girls then invited me to the club (I ended up going home with a different girl).

Here are some ways you can talk about your sexuality:

Talk about what you do and do not like in bed.

Talk about girls you think are hot and want to fuck.

Talk about how you are dominant in bed.

Talk about how you like sex with an emotional connection.

If you can get women talking about sex they often get turned on.

A third way is to make jokes about sex. For example, if she says “I give great blowjobs” you might say “Oh wow, so what are you doing later?” These types of jokes only work, however, when the context calls for it. I generally prefer to stay away from these sexual jokes because they can be interpreted literally and destroy the challenge.

One last point: when you make the conversation sexual, you must quickly change the topic to something else and not dwell on it. Lingering on how you want to fuck her or how you like to get your dick sucked will again put pressure on women, even if you do have some challenge mixed in. You must talk like sex and fucking is not a big deal for you, and you are not some thirsty zombie who is obsessed with sex. Also, you don’t need to make the conversation sexual very long. Generally speaking, you only need to say it once or twice that you want to fuck her – believe me, she will remember.

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