How to stop being needy?

zragequitz · 2016-11-11T20:06:07+00:00

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But seriously, that book REALLY helps to put things into perspective. The fact that you focused so much on your track record of failure indicates that you are outcome dependent. Reading even further, I get the feeling that you're valuing yourself purely based on your ability to pull women.

There really is no silver bullet to solve outcome dependence and neediness. It's something everyone struggles, or struggled, with in this community, seriously. My advice to you is to invest as heavily in your own self improvement. Inner game, inner game, inner game, start on the inside. Be your own best friend, exercise, meditate, get a rad as fuck hobby, seek counseling if that's you're thing. It wasn't for me personally, but I know lots of people who improved leaps and bounds with the right counselor.

Become the Brad Pitt version of yourself, a version of yourself that you're so fucking proud of, you'd parade yourself around town. Once you get to that point, you'll realize that you couldn't care less about how many or few women you've kissed, fucked, or dated. THEN, outcome dependence will seem like a completely foreign feeling and a thing of the past.

I know this probably wasn't the answer you were hoping/looking for. However, I definitely hope that this helps, if you wanna talk more shoot me a pm

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-zragequitz

Noosterdam · 2016-11-11T21:57:44+00:00

Neediness is by definition needing someone else in order to feel happy or complete.

Instead, learn how to feel happy and complete with nothing, just existing. If you can't do that, seduction is pointless anyway, as you WILL be needy and it will eventually fall apart because either the girls will sense it or they will be unable to notice it because they're even needier than you are (which will fall apart just the same, you will drag each other down).

Feeling happy is a choice you make. Meditate on it. Meditate and smile. Remember what it was like from your childhood. It's just society that tells you you need a reason to be happy and that it's silly to just smile for no reason like a kid does.

Get out of society's box. Experience joy for no reason. Then add to that with whatever improvements you want, including women. If in striving for achievements you start to mistake the achievements for the core source of joy, you have turned everything on its head. Women are not necessary to feel happy; just a nice accompaniment to multiply it by sharing.

roeddit · 2016-11-12T02:14:28+00:00

Lower your standards for a few months. Get abundance. Move up.

What are you doing in the gym? You should be trying to get bigger.

watched hundreds RSD videos on YT

This is advanced shit - not needed until you can act normal and look hot.

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-11-12T05:39:25+00:00

needs and needy are different things. needy is when you think you are entitled to your needs instead of earning them.

wilson911021 · 2016-11-12T01:11:50+00:00

Mark Manson does a great job in explaining formation of neediness and solutions to it in Models,which to me is a must-read self-improvement book. I haven't finished the book yet but I felt like my whole life changed in 3 ways after implementing the ideas presented in the book.

1. I start to love myself again I am not afraid of others' perception of me, which made me less intimidated when talking to strangers. This also helps me gain control of my life again.

2. Not afraid of showing women who I'm After realizing how neediness destroy my game, I began to express my emotion properly with women I talk to. You would be surprised by how receptive they are when you talk about thing embedded with your emotion and feeling(eg: life story, personal issues)

3. Find myself I find myself enjoying talking to strangers after implementing Mr. Mason's ideas. In fact that I knew I loved talking to strangers. Since I valued others' perception of me than my perception of myself(a HUGE sign of neediness), I always told me not to do so in public. Now I'm a person who would randomly chat with strangers once I feel like I want to talk to him/her. Don't hide your true inner self when it comes to socializing. Otherwise you are gonna behave awkwardly and therefore you are not attractive.

I'm not advertising for his book. What I just said are 100% unbiased and honest. Check this book out and you won't regret.

Title	How to stop being needy?
Author	change_ton
Upvotes	8
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Date	November 11, 2016 6:37 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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