I approached someone finally!

noahisthefuture · 2022-03-25T17:52:48+00:00

Nice work. Getting started is the hardest part. Here are some tips that I think could improve your success ratio now.

Find out who she's traveling with first. Add in a sincere compliment that's fun but not creepy before asking her out. And when you finally ask her, don't say "some day" because it adds pressure on her since she doesn't know what she's agreeing to. You need to build value first with something like this.

"Oh cool, I hear it's super pretty there. How long have you been visiting for?"

replies

"Nice so you have/haven't gotten a chance to visit all the tourist spots then? (their answer doesn't matter)"

replies yes or no or some variation

Once you've built enough value, she's smiling, not as guarded as before, say something like "Well there's this great bar/restaurant/place in the city that I've been wanting to go to. It's one of the better kept secrets of (wherever you live). If you have a free evening before you leave I'd love to take you out..."

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-25T18:36:33+00:00

Ok here is the feedback Lets start counting how many questions and statements you made.

Me: Hey
Her: Hey
Me: How are you? Are you from here? 1 question
Her: No I’m from Venezuela but living in Colombia.. came here for vacation
Me: Oh that’s cool so you are from Venezuela, live in Colombia but are here in Panama for vacation? 2 questions
Her: exactly haha
Me: Well nice to meet you I’m Ben.. 1 statement
Her: Nice to meet you I’m Alejandra
Me: and how’d you like it so far? Did you find it fun? 3 questions
Her: Yeah I missed the beaches but the only thing I didn’t like is the hot temperature haha
Me: Definitely haha, I see you taking some good sun, have you been to Cartagena (in colombia)? 4 questions
Her: Yes
Me: me too it looks pretty similar to here :) 2 statements
Her: Yaah.
Me: Well, would you like to go out some day? 5 questions
Her: I would but I’m leaving today :(
Me: Oh okay and are you ever coming back? 6 questions
Her: Nope :(
Me: Well it was nice to meet you shake hands
Her: Nice to meet you.

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So you said 8 things, 2 statements and 6 questions before she turned you down.

So 75% of your conversation were questions, and only 25% were statements.

See the problem? It feels like an interrogation.

This isn’t really effective when it comes to building attraction.

You are somewhat getting to know her but she isn’t getting to know you. The conversation doesn’t make you stand out because anyone could ask her questions like that.

There is no personality displayed in this interaction, it wouldn’t be any different if a computer or a robot was asking the questions.

And without personality, it’s very hard for a girl to feel attraction for you or connect with you

There is no connection because she can’t really relate to you since she knows nothing about you.

She can’t feel in the mood to go out with you because you didn’t really make her feel anything, you didn’t make her laugh, and you didn’t even flirt with her.

She wouldn’t really know what your intentions are, friendship or romance? Since you didn’t flirt… the most she will assume is friendship.

And when you ask her out, it comes out of nowhere because you didn’t really tell her why you decided it was a good idea to see each other again. Yes, you need good reasons to want to see her again, unfortunately based on that conversation you have no good reasons at all and she knows it.

You don’t even know her name, you are just an stranger because you haven’t talked at all about who you are… Women won’t go out with an stranger, you need to get to know each other if you want them to be excited about going to a date.

You can’t wait for the date to get to know each other, you have to do it before.

The conversation is generic, boring, and impersonal. You don’t really make her feel anything, and if the girl can’t feel anything, then there is no spark or chemistry, and without chemistry or spark, girls won’t be interested in seeing you again.

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-03-25T17:52:31+00:00

Good job man

zawpi · 2022-03-25T19:10:34+00:00

Hell yeah man! Good job, don’t fret too much, build up the courage to approach more, imagine approaching 50+ girls a week, you’ll get better with the advise here and you’ll get some numbers, some of those numbers will turn into dates, and some of those dates will turn into lays, approach more is all you need to do, good luck man, just go for it! 😊😊

2022-03-25T19:01:16+00:00

Nice work. Don't think too hard about the outcome. The fact you are out there approaching is an amazing scene. Keep doing more of these, and you will start improving.. Great job dude

SirDaddy4u · 2022-03-25T19:05:30+00:00

baby steps...as said below...build value...and remember it's a numbers game and it may not have ANYTHING to do with you if it doesn't go as you hope. Maintain confidence. Confidence not cockiness is attractive.

never_on_time · 2022-04-01T06:51:15+00:00

I matched with an Alejandra from Venezuela like a month ago😳

Title	I approached someone finally!
Author	Sentilam
Upvotes	77
Comments	21
Date	March 25, 2022 5:35 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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