I don't care about "status" or anything mainstream, and I'm really sick of seeing that here.

F3arless_Bubble · 2016-01-13T07:54:27+00:00

And there lies your first problem: an unwillingness to change. To be honest I don't think there's much about status on here. You aren't too old to improve or make new friends. Job? Almost irrelevant. You don't need a billion dollars to pick up chicks. All you need are presentable clothes, and to be well groomed. Yeah money will help but it's not the only thing, and I haven't seen a single post saying it's impossible without being rich.

You aren't too old to improve. People older than you pick up new hobbies ALL THE TIME. Find a new interesting hobby, improve an old one. Improve physically, it's never too late to exercise. You said you're in your 30s? Lol you can hit the gym or do some other physical activity (can be a new hobby!). Being an introvert doesn't mean you are completely unable to go out... I understand it may be hard for you but take this fact: if you do not go and interact with people, you WILL not get close to them for your goal of sex. You're not going to meet anyone by staying home.

Make new friends? I didn't know there was an age where you're no longer allowed to make friends. Try a hobby to make friends.

Now bars with friends? I'm pretty sure it's one of the easiest and most casual ways to get casual sex. What's this about connections and feeling safe? Don't get that part. You don't need a mutual friend, you don't need to have friends in high places, you don't need to know anyone to approach that cute girl and succeed.

As for mainstream? There's plenty of other ways to meet girls than going to bars, although it's the easiest method. Hobbies, man. Or even random encounters.

TL;DR all I see here is zero will to change. The excuse of "conditions" is being used. I was very introverted in the past (prob not as much as you but still on the far end of the spectrum) and now I'm at the middle point between int and ext. did it by getting out of my comfort zone and talking to people to improve. Edit: if you want it, then you have to work for it.

imyoursuperbeast · 2016-01-13T12:46:06+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but humans are social creatures (at least most are), and while you might eventually get laid without doing anything different, your chances are going to be slim.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If you don't like your current situation, make the decision to change something. There is no magic bullet. Social interaction is how a guy gets women. I'm very introverted, yet have figured out sitting at home feeling sorry for myself got me nowhere. So I changed. I'm still me, but slightly more outgoing when required.

letsgetrandy · 2016-01-13T22:39:17+00:00

I'm autistic and deeply introverted

We could already tell.

Let's call it a "social" disability first and foremost

Indeed. That's exactly what it is. Unfortunately, it's impacting exactly the thing that is most important in getting laid, and it's going to be a huge challenge for you.

I think I would just try being straightforward and honest with women, and let them know early on that it's autism and not because you're a creep. (To most women, the two are hard to tell apart, but one is just an unfortunate illness while the other is disturbing and dangerous.)

Title	I don't care about "status" or anything mainstream, and I'm really sick of seeing that here.
Author	Aeon199
Upvotes	6
Comments	15
Date	January 13, 2016 5:12 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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