Ayo

I know many of you are courageous warriors of love. You'd love to go and talk to that cutie over there. But, what to tell her man ?

How do you fill that void between "Hi, I wanted to come talk to you because I think you're cute" and "Take off your panties, baby" ?

YOU ARE AFRAID OF YOUR OWN WORDS

- You're trying too hard to come up with good lines

"Hi, what's up" will become your favorite warming up tool. Most guys try SO HARD to come up with the perfect opener. Having an opener is 1% of the job. And girls don't remember it 20seconds after you say it anyway.

Then you might freeze because your brain will harass you about how not good enough what you want to say is. Forget it. Just keep talking. Execute the process, the bar of "how good what you say has to be for her to stick around" is usually very low. If she goes away it's not gonna be because of what you say in most cases. Remember, only 7% of communication is verbal.

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- You're afraid of failing in a group

Let's say you're in a house party. If you are afraid to show some alpha traits, girls will just go with the next guy. Being afraid of what you think is not an alpha trait. Being too nice and being afraid to take a place among the group is a normal human reaction. It's not going to help you with pickup though. Solution : Don't give a F. Social calibration and experience helps.

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- You're afraid of others judging the fact you're actually flirting

Oh noez, there's this old lady next to us, I can't approach this girl, she would hear it and judge me. I mean, you know it, I know it. We're all afraid of looking stupid in social setting and being judged for that. Solution again : don't give a F. You have to train that, be able to handle the social pressure. I mean, no one gives a F about you approaching a girl anyway. People might look out of curiosity, and be 3 seconds later back to thinking about themselves.

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- You are not in a social mood

Happens to everyone. If you are out of state and didn't talk to anyone for the whole week, your weekend is gonna suck. UNLESS you start taking action. It usually takes me 6 awkward approaches to get into a social state. After that it's easy cake, I don't even have approach anxiety anymore. I do it, others do it, you can do it. Plow through those 6 initial approaches.

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You know the right thing to do, now let's see how to do it right in part twooo

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HOW TO SPEAK YOUR MIND WITHOUT BEING A CREEPO

- Don't try to get something from her

Don't go and expect her to make the conversation. Add value to her day/night. Be fun and engaging. How ? Make jokes and make her talk about her.

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- Risk loosing her (aka show her you have a penis and big ballz)

Basically, assume what you do and what you say. Say that funny-but-slightly-offensive joke, calibrate after the fact if needed. Tease her. Pretend that you don't like her. Don't be afraid to let her know you think she's hot.

Yes you will lose more girls by doing this than just being nice and respectful all the time. Yes you will bang way more girls by doing this than just being nice and respectful all the time.

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REDDIT SPECIAL BONUS - Steal those basic lines (opening conversation 101)

"Hi, what's up ?"

"Hi, how are you?"

"Hi, are you from Australia ?"

"Hi, nice to meet you"

"Hi, can you help me find my penis" (field tested, approved by brazilian model)

"Hi, basicallyanything"

Follow up with the 4 WH questions : Where are you from, What do you do for a living, Where are your friends, What do you think of XXX. Use them all.

After that the conversation should be ignited strongly enough for the other person to be comfortable around you throwing your usual jokes and fortnite dance showoff. If not, it's most likely that this person doesn't want to talk anyway. Onto the next one!

If needed, follow up with the PUA most famous 3 logistical questions that you should ask anyway : who are you here with, where do you live, what do you do tomorrow.

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I made a full article on that topic on my blog, feel free to check it out, means a lot to me. I'll keep making more if you guys like it.

https://insaneflirt.wordpress.com/2018/11/25/the-biggest-problem-when-you-dont-know-what-to-say-and-how-to-fix-it-now/