So a bit about me: I’m a 21 yr old dude who just finished college and had several makeouts, 1 BJ, and 1 lay in college, which all came about through luck or drunk hookups. I’m pursuing medicine and have hobbies like rock climbing and tennis. I’m somewhat short (5,7), but I nvr think about that and I’m fit so I don’t think that is what holds me back.

I want to have more sexual experience and connect with women but I feel like I truly don’t understand how. I’ve gone on dates and have tried different methods. I’ve tried quickly escalating kino and trying to be more physical; I’ve tried being aloof and chill; I’ve tried connecting about more personal things. I’ve only gotten a second date twice and those fizzled out quickly after. Frankly, there is so much conflicting advice about oh you need to connect first, oh you need to escalate, oh you need to just be chill and talk about what you want. I’m just confused and don’t understand what I’m doing wrong or what I can do better. Can someone who has been in a similar situation or has gone from repeated failures to success explain to me what good game is cause I truly am lost.

Thanks!