So I am a machine when it comes to getting numbers. Here are the tenets of my approach:

  1. I approach in college campuses. People feel safer there than in the city and you are more likely to find someone who is willing to try something new out and explore. College students are definitely not stuck in their ways.

  2. I compliment something about them. For example, a woman had stickers on her computer so I complimented the stickers and asked her where she got them. This is to gauge how open they are to meeting me. If they are curt and submissive, I move on immediately. However if they are fun and open, I continue the conversation.

  3. I get the conversation going for at least a few minutes. This is so I create enough rapport with them that they will want to see me again. It is super easy to go up to a woman and get her number, it is a little harder to make sure you are able to see her again.

  4. I always ask them out for coffee or tea. This is critical. I never ask for the number. I always ask for the date. I then say "Cool, let me get your number". Asking for the date is more genuine and shows your intent with the number. "Can I get your number?" comes of like a player, and you are not there just to collect numbers and do nothing with them.

  5. Immediately after talking with them, I jot down notes about them and what I said to them. This is so when I text them I can bring it back to the conversation so they remember me. It is also so I remember who they are when I put them in my phone. Gotta differentiate between all those Kates.

  6. The majority of numbers will not respond back. And that's ok. Out of the 9 numbers I get I will average 2 or 3 first dates. Which is more than what I need to have in order to have a successful dating career.

  7. Embrace the process. I have had a lot of fun walking up to random strangers and creating conversations out of thin air. It has led to many meaningful interactions and even a few great connections. I have women who I can say I am good friends with even though we met when I was hitting on them. I even have one women I can sleep with when I want to because I picked her up.

  8. Invest in an iPhone. iMessage is well worth it. There are tons of benefits to iMessage which I won't get into here.

  9. If you are not closing you are practicing. I always try to be closing. But so I do not get in trouble I do not try to close with sets that shut me off. For me these sets are just practice.

  10. The phone is your friend. I text a girl first. If she doesn't respond within a practical amount of time I call her. Many times I've gotten girls who are simply better at the phone than texting, and I am able to set dates up. Of course I never call twice and I never text twice.

Here are some of my observations of what has worked for me. I hope it works for you too.