I have a problem gaming while others are around, I always feel so embarrassed and all the filters come back on. I have no idea how to take it on.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-03-03T05:22:14+00:00

Who are these people mocking you? Maybe you need a different social circle that doesn't include them.

whatwasigonnasay · 2014-03-03T05:24:18+00:00

You just have to stop caring eventually. I've stopped girls in front of people who watch. You know what they were probably thinking? "Wow I wish I had the balls to do that". Even if I got rejected, do you think they're going to remember me an hour from now? Probably not. People only care about themselves. I know that every approach is me coming into my prime as a man and no one is going to stop me from doing that. It comes down to one thing, how badly do you want to be great at this?

Approach groups as well as the solo girls. You want to expose yourself to as much emotional trauma as possible. Every time you do something that makes you super nervous, you grow as a person and expand your comfort zone. I went into a Ruby Tuesdays after I talked to this girl today and approached the hostess in front of her coworkers. I did it because it made me nervous. Now my comfort zone has expanded even further. There is no way around feeling nervous either. You have to develop will power and barrel through your emotions which are holding you back from progressing. Realize that your emotions are designed to keep you in place. You have to actively fight against them until they adjust to your new reality (new comfort zones).

unstoppablo · 2014-03-03T05:15:08+00:00

Hi dude, I want you to know that I am by no means trying to be an asshole here, but have you ever wondered if they are actually right? You need to have fun, you need to engage the group and acknowledge the whole vibe; if everyone's laughing, why shouldn't you? If they laugh at you, big deal, you can still win a girl by being rock solid, having a good body language and being CONFIDENT. Confidence isn't just about having the control of your body language, it's also about how you feel. It's no big deal.

I had this same problem and, to be honest, I still do. I used to suck at picking up girls around people I knew and I was too approval seeking; you could tell by my body language, too fidgeting. Approval seeking is the least attractive trait a man can ever have, so yeah, not attractive at all. If it's too much of a problem just find yourself a new group of friends or just stop worrying.

Attractive traits include HUMOR, so you might as well get used to it.

I_am_not_funny_ · 2014-03-03T12:56:56+00:00

I often go out with guys who are into picking up girls, but aren't necessarily PUAs or doing it all the time. They know I do this, so I quite often try and pick up girls while they're around, and sometimes I succeed and of course sometimes I fail. If I fail, it's no big deal. I just go back to them and continue chatting as before. Never have I been mocked or ridiculed for it. If you are experiencing this, you should just find some different guys who know the deal. Also I don't know your age, but it sounds like your friends might be quite young if they're making jokes about this kind of thing. Don't be afraid to find some older friends either.

Tinkstical · 2014-03-04T01:26:10+00:00

"Comfort zone is mans greatest enemy. It is better to be a loser that tried than a loser that didnt" - Carlton Cole

Dresdain · 2014-03-03T16:19:00+00:00

They cant make fun of you if you make fun of yourself. I live in an environment where you are mocked and picked on constantly(deployment) you just gotta roll with it man.

backstabbath93 · 2014-03-04T12:29:56+00:00

If the people you're talking about that mock you are considered "friends", you may need new friends mate. Anyone who gives a "friend" shit for things that they do, without being obviously lighthearted joking about it, doesn't deserve to be friends with you.

I see a couple of options here, 1) take it in your stride like you do when solo and fuck what they think of you.

2) Call them out on their bullshit. "Hey look man, I know you're trying to be cool and impress people by belittling me, but if you could, please fuck off? Thanks." Then go right back to what you were doing before.

Title	I have a problem gaming while others are around, I always feel so embarrassed and all the filters come back on. I have no idea how to take it on.
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Date	March 3, 2014 4:33 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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