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[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 9 points10 points11 points 15 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You already know the problem, and the solution. You just want us to talk you out of it. Sorry, can't help you there.
I will merely note that there is one thing conspicuously absent from your comments: any indication that the girl has any feelings for you.
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[–]Lead ModeratorThrowawayPUA 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Obviously her job and career are more important to her than you are. Consider that.
[–]Lanko 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This seams like relationship advice, not seduction. You can't maintain the spark over the distance. You can however maintain the relationship. Call her, talk to her. plan trips to visit, get her to plan trips to visit. If you're as determined to cling to your oneitis the way you make it sound, you should be feeling out the possibility of you moving across the country to be with her. (and whether or not she wants you to) start with phone calls. If you can't convince her to pick up the phone and call you every once in a while. it's a lost cause.
[–]Nexism 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not going to happen. Impossible, improbable.
Forget her, move on.
Perhaps one day she'll come visit and give you a call, or you visit and give her a call, but in the meantime, move on.
[–]mctan21 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This.
Now i'm NOT saying that you two will never work out, but right now is not the time. If there is a romantic inside of you, leave it up to destiny/fate/God/Cthulhu/whatever. In the mean time, staying attractive to her means you succeeding in as many aspects of your life as you can. So go out there, have fun, establish a career, hook up with beautiful women, and enjoy life! That way, if your paths are destined to cross again, the you she re-encounters will be in a place to swoop her off of her feet (if you do it right, you won't have to! She'll see your worth by the life you've lead since you parted. A life of success and happiness, not a life of dependency and neediness).
[–]jamessnow 1 point2 points3 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't even understand what you want or mean by "get the girl". If you live X and she lives Y and the distance between X and Y is large, what's your goal? Make her move back? Phone sex? Cam sex? Move there and marry her?
[–]Tordak 0 points1 point2 points 15 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wait one sec. Here are some questions:
1 - What is your goal? That is really the question here. Is she "the one" or is she just pretty good? 2 - What did she say when you guys separated? Does she want it to work out too?
I have had long distance relationships and it is possible, but it can also be a huge waste of time (and harder to tell because you are so far apart). So, the last question...
3 - How sure are you about the first two answers?
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