I know that when I post here, I'm talking to an audience of people who have greater inner game than most people I'll ever meet in my life. So let me ask you this: How do you stay grounded? Is it at times hard to stay comfortable with your own awesomeness?

intjpua · 2010-04-25T16:21:04+00:00

You're actually not talking to who you think you're talking to. I'm pretty sure most people here are recovering introverts, and we struggle with it daily. :)

So, no, my own awesomeness does not overwhelm me.

I do sometimes "overgame" in cases where I don't realize that the girl or girls are already somewhat intimidated by me (being older and successful sometimes has that effect, and I can't tease nearly as aggressively with girls under about 24 or 25, or even older girls who feel insecure about their place in life and what they've accomplished; the insecurities come back with a vengeance for single women over 35, and so you have to go back to being sincere and sweet while still being confident, non-needy, and take-charge; you have to be the alpha that everyone says is "so nice!"). This is often inexperience or insecurity on their part, as much as it is mine, but the fault is mine for not recognizing the situation and responding appropriately. I ought to be able to make everyone comfortable in the situation. Anyway, when this goes wrong, I usually come off looking like a cocky jerk, even though I'm just a ball of insecurities like everyone else.

Sublomino · 2010-04-26T03:28:19+00:00

Be OK with being uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is the zone where you grow. So, I think trying to stay comfortable is the wrong goal altogether. When you are pushing your limits and feeling uncomfortable, give yourself permissions to be human and allow those feelings of uncomfortable to be there with you. You know the expression: "get outside of your comfort zone"? That's where you want to be.

2010-04-25T16:54:42+00:00

I'm not that awesome but being grounded is a priority. I think the place to start is with the here and now. Just focusing on breathing and accepting the experience you're having at the moment.

rmbarnes · 2010-04-25T17:06:37+00:00

Most people on here are noobs (myself) included.

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