Hello to all the magnificant people of seddit . This is my first time posting in seddit and im looking forward for your responses and your advices . Englich is not my native language , so be easy on me .

Im 27 years old foreigner from nord Africa and live in germany for 6 years .My childhood was fucked up on many levels to say the least and it caused me to have major self-esteem issues and one of the worst anxieties ever , specially around beautiful women ( i can not speak to them at all ) .

For 1.5 years i started to get into self-improvement , reading books , going to the gym , did a fashion and style upgrade and i found seddit which i think is one of the best places for those looking to improve themselves .. i ve started noticing girls looking at me when i go to parties , started getting complements , girls getting close to me , smiling at me and wanting to dance with me .. BUT i wasted all those fucking chances because of my anxiety ( i have bad social and approach anxiety ) . I cant speak to them and even if i do i fuck it up really fast and i can not express my sexual interest to them . That made me feel miserable .

For 3-4 months i ve found out about the gradual exposure method . Its about breaking down the fear into smaller , more manageable steps , gradually exposing oneself to the anxiety . After a lot of procastrination and mental resistance I decided to give a try and i think , this was one of the best decision in my whole life . I started going out 5 days a week and asking 10 women about the time . The first day i went out , i was wondering around for like 40 minutes , trying to find the courage to ask a girl about the time 😂 i know its silly , but thats how bad my anxiety was . I did that for 3 weeks and i started noticing it getting a lot easier . Then i started to ask about the time and the directions , and had no difficulty doing it .

Then came the part where i should give complements on top of asking the time and the directions . It was freaking hard , specially the first weeks and when the girl was hot . I did not give up and kept pushing through .

I learned about the importance of having a social hobby and i started going to a salsa dance class full of hot women ( i did it because i love dancing and to help me being more comfortable around women).

I also started meditation (which helped a lot btw) and i started to notice the negatives thought patterns my mind was into . I started responding a lot better to them , not reacting blindly to my thoughts and to my anxieties and came to the point where i was super comfortable asking about the time , directions and then giving complements .. i noticed that the anxiety started to fade away both mentally and physically , and i learned that having a negative response from a girl is not a big thing , it stings for a 10 secondes and then i forget about it and i would be occupied looking for the next girl to talk to .

I want to add a new step on top of asking about the time , directions and giving complements , starting tomorrow . But i have no idea what that would be ?? Any suggestions guys ??

I have a little voice in my head , telling me that i should start cold approaching and that im ready for it , but i dunno if thats a good idea 😅