I have started cold approaching for 2 weeks and made a post in reddit about it . For some context i ve had very bad social and approach anxiety and never had a girlfriend .

I did what i once thought was impossible for me and i approached 46 girls in the last 2 weeks and got some numbers and some instagrams . I even went on a date with a cool chinese girl .I got to tell you i have not felt this good in a really long time. It really feels like a fantastic dream .

During approaching i have learned some things that i want to share :

  • its really scary at first and theres a lot of resistance but when i pushed through the first days i started to get used to taking action despite of it

  • that feeling of awkwardness in the first 15 seconds of every approach was really bad. It gave me a hard time . But after 30 approaches it started to disappear and i can proudly say that i ve hardly felt any awkwardness today

  • the hardest approach is always the first one of the day . Its where i experienced the most anxiety and resistance but after doing it , it starts getting easier and i start getting out of my head .

  • i might have gotten some bad reactions but the majority of girls have reacted positvely and some even thanked for approaching them and told me that i have balls for doing that . I told one girl today that i had some bad anxiety . She could not believe me . She told me i looked so confident while speaking to her . Little does she know i was shitting my pants before approaching her

  • im really starting to enjoy cold approaching and speaking to girls . Im loving the thrill of it and its really doing wonders for my supposedly bad self-esteem .

  • rejections and bad reactions are not that big of a deal . With every rejection i feel like im getting more desensitized to it and more comfortable.

    • meditation and releasing have helped me a lot

Lastly i want to thank the seddit community from the bottom of my heart . You ve helped me a lot