I'd love some advice

Alphagreen_97 · 2024-09-04T02:40:28+00:00

You definitely don't open with "Hey cutie"

I honestly don't have much experience over social media approaches since I find it MOST important to not shy away from real life cold approaches.

If you only talk to women over social media, it's because you don't have the balls to talk to them on the street. That's the only way to actually get good + it shows the women that you're a man with guts, even if you act nervous at the beginning.

Women get dozens and dozens of messages over social media and dating apps. Don't be like those dozens of other guys, be better.

Say hi to that attractive women waiting for the train, you will gain respect for yourself.

Mc_Dickles · 2024-09-04T03:25:50+00:00

No Christ no. Would you approach a girl on the street with "hi cutie?" No; so why would you on social media? It's the same thing.

Cold approaching on social media is following her and waiting for that follow back. Shit just today I experienced this. My sister shared some of my photography and this girl liked my post. I checked her page out and thought she was cute, so I liked two pictures back. 20 minutes later she followed me and I followed her back. Good start.

What am I gonna do next? Just keep doing my thing and posting whatever I typically post on my story because I want her to get a glimpse of my personality. She might even swipe up and send a laughing emoji or interact. If not, I'll just wait until I see something on her story I can relate to, and that's how I'll spark conversation with her.

The number #1 time saver I'll share with you right now? Do NOT DM any girl that doesn't follow you back. It pretty much never works as you get sent to a hidden folder she never checks. And also in the real world you're looking IOI's, Indicators of Interest. The biggest IOI on social is mutual interaction. A follow back. It's also the bare fucking minimum. Follow a girl on IG. Give it a few days, a week. If she doesn't follow back, unfollow. No shame. Most people's notifications are empty so they WILL see you follow, and they WILL check your page out. If they decide nothing about you interests them, they won't follow back.

DaygameCode · 2024-09-04T04:45:53+00:00

Do you honestly expect women to say “hey handsome” as a response to “hey cutie”?

Imagine thinking “hey cutie” is somehow not as boring as “hey how are you doing”.

The reason you won’t get results is because you really don’t know why you are even talking to them and all you are thinking is “what magical phrase can i say that will convince her to meet me and have sex with me as soon as possible”, and that mindset already means you will never succeed before the conversation even begins.

It’s so obvious why guys fail and it’s because of three reasons:

1, they don’t give a shit about the girl they are talking to

2, they don’t have an actual personality and all act like NPCs.

3, they have already decided they want to meet her and have sex before they even talk with her, so of course now there is nothing to say.

No personality, no sense of humor, nothing interesting to say, no skills to grab a woman’s attention, no standards, no connection…. just throwing compliments, praise, gifts, and vague promises of what they would do if she gave them a chance… that’s it. 90% of guys doing the same thing with the same lack of results.

Electronic_d0cter · 2024-09-04T04:39:35+00:00

Try to approach in person if you can. Just go up to women you don't find attractive first and ask for directions then go to attractive women and ask, then give a compliment after you ask, then have a conversation etc. I'm the most socially anxious person in the world and it takes very little time to progress to the next stage

The chances of finding anything meaningful online especially when it seems like you're not good at talking to women is 0 in my experience

Title	I'd love some advice
Author	P8ANTOM
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	September 4, 2024 2:33 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1f8idxk/id_love_some_advice/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/id-love-some-advice.1529316 https://theredarchive.com/post/1529316

Comments