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[–]kingofshapes13 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Quit putting the pussy on a pedestal. There is nothing more unattractive than a whiny, self centered baby. "I'm not trying to brag..." "Girls tell me I'm attractive." Blah blah blah. Why don't you read a fucking book and take your mind off of women for 5 minutes and do some self introspection on what you want in life that isn't related to the opposite sex, then come back to the game. Quit basing your value on whether or not you have a romantic or sexual relationship with women.
[–]ThePUA_Baddie 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
what are you after, a relationship or sex? if you're really in that desperate need for sex you can always pay for it, going 7 months without a lay is quite some time. if you're looking for a relationship, ask yourself why. i never really understand when a guy insists that he is looking for a relationship or girlfriend. if you are looking to fuck hot girls i can completely understand that. why are you looking for a relationship? relationships just happen, you meet people in life doing things you enjoy, girls or guys. you should feel comfortable on your own. you don't NEED a girlfriend to complete your life, that is a toxic mindset. do you have friends? having friends and people to talk to should be good enough social interaction. don't obsess with needing to feel loved by a girl, you don't need the love of women to feel complete
[–]Skiigga 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think I care more about the relationship honestly. Not getting laid sucks, but I don’t care about it THAT much. To me, it’s more of just an indicator that I haven’t had a solid human interaction recently (although I’ve still hooked up with a couple girls in that time).
I’ve just always been single and I kinda wanna get some dating experience and also have some companionship.
[–]ThePUA_Baddie 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i've always been single for the past 5 years+, i've only had 1 real girlfriend and that lasted about a month. i admit when i was 18,19,20 i was still fixated on getting a girlfriend, that was my main goal. now at 22, i really don't care about getting a girlfriend. for example there is one girl who i met during a temporary job that ended this past friday. i have her number, we've talked, we've texted, we've connected well, and i could probably turn her into a girlfriend if i was serious about it. but i'm not all that driven to do so, mainly because physically she isn't my type and i don't really feel driven to pursue her, she is a great girl though with an excellent personality.
you should do some cold approach and online dating. you'll get dating experience that way. maybe we're just wired differently. but for me, being a young dude, i highly prefer getting laid over a relationship. getting laid on the regular and THEN getting into a relationship with the girl would be the ideal for me
[–]Skiigga 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your story is almost similar to mine. Last year I was casually hooking up with a girl that by all means should’ve been girlfriend material - cute, really smart, fun, smokes/drinks, etc. but for some reason I just couldn’t find the feelings to like her like that.
Most of my lays have come from tinder, which is okay, but sometimes leaves me feeling like I’m useless in real life and instead get stuck hiding behind a screen. I like using it as a backup but fear getting stuck relying on it which I sometimes do if I’m in a rut
[–]recipricating 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
im glad you look up to people, but you can't keep switching your gears bc some guru is telling you to. Invent a way that works for you. And use that to make it easy to get up, get out, tackle your goals, and meet the women that you come across along the way. re-animate your inner experimenter and leave your inner GAMES alone... until you gain the development necessary to win those inner games. you up for that kind of test? if not, someday you're inner child will could grow up, you can take on the tough questions then
[–]recipricating 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
i sometimes wonder if the quintessential thing that brings us all to read about this kind of persuasion, is that we over think. If we were massive action takers, a lot of this stuff would have been learned the moment you met someone you like
I definitely think so. Part of the reason I struggle with Game is because I’m so logic oriented and struggle with the emotional component. I over analyze everything by nature which makes just letting go hard
[–]throwaway2342234 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I over analyze everything by nature which makes just letting go hard
So you're gonna have to practice ways to not over analyze and keep building on that
[–]recipricating 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
true... and if you dont know who you are on an emotional level, then who is it that youre bringing into your interactions? A stranger does strange things. you can't inner game your fear away, you can only rehearse the right moves, especially when everything about you wants to shut down. You ever seen military bootcamp videos? the environment is designed to shut them down, but still somehow they manage to do the rights things bc of the drills and training. At some point, its automatic and they can't even do it wrong anymore. logic is fine. logic should remind you thats its logical to fight those fears. If you can defeat yourself, you'll have the advantage.
[–]kalolilo 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You really need to increase your funnel.
You need to talk to a lot, and I mean a lot of girls. Before I got together with my girlfriend I approached around 200 girls through day game, went through 150 matches and 10 dates on Tinder and 20 more through social circle and going out. It took this long before I was satisfied with her education, values, atrractiveness, personality, interests.
If you're below those number, you really need to up the numbers by a lot. You're not allowed to complain if you only approach 3 girls and then are miserable because you'll "never find someone".
[–]savagesteve_13 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't read too much pickup stuff it will clutter your mind. Pick one and follow it.
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