I'm single for the first time in about two years, most of my friends left the area, not much happening in my city, not sure where to start.

goetz_von_cyborg · 2015-06-21T21:57:56+00:00

Option 1: Nut up, go out solo and have fun! It seems harder than it is. Talk to everyone and eventually you'll find yourself talking to girls you're interested in.

Option 2: Find some activities that involve other people and meet people that way!

Option 3: Get dates via Tinder/OKC/POF/whatever and do those.

You're only the outcast in your own head.

white_gelt · 2015-06-21T23:26:02+00:00

Daygame.

MultipurposeEraser · 2015-06-22T01:32:57+00:00

These dark times will not pass unless you make them pass. You have to go out there make friends. Even if there not women. Yes even if there not pretty women. People lead to more people. Sooner or later you will get what you want but your going to have to get out there.

recyclablebantha · 2015-06-22T04:52:21+00:00

I want to go out, I just don't like the idea of going out alone, because everyone else at the bars are with other people, and I don't feel comfortable approaching groups.

Fair enough. So you can work it out in baby steps. Go to places at night that feature some activity and talk to people around that activity. Pool, darts, partner dancing, whatever does it for you.

I feel like a creep or a loser.

This is the way you choose to frame it. If you're having a good time, and you approach someone, then there's nothing creepy or loser-ish about it.

And I've gotten a lot more confident, but I just don't know how to be out-going enough to become alpha in an environment where I'm the outcast.

You don't need to be "alpha." You're making this more complicated than you need to. You are also shooting yourself in the foot by assuming that you're "the outcast."

reddiot666 · 2015-06-21T22:48:10+00:00

I've been going through the same thing recently. Honestly, I didn't remember what a pain in the ass it was and how flaky women can be. I also recently moved to a new town so don't even really know where all the singles go.

But this last Friday I went out to about 5 different bars solo and found a nice little dance club about 2 miles from where I live. I just stopped by in a little steak house/bar to grab a cocktail before heading back when I saw a group of about 4 girls dance on this 10ft squared floor. I complimented them on their twerking and they waved me over. I bought one a drink and she grinded all over me the next song. Honestly I wasn't really interested in her after talking. Pretty foul mouth and their entire group seemed like they were welfare queens. Not sure if they really all had 2-4 kids or just f*ing with me but I didn't go home with any of them or trade numbers. But it was a big confidence booster.

If you go out every Friday and Saturday for a month I guarantee you'll get a girlfriend. Hate when all those people give me that dumb look when I tell them I'm out alone. My roommate is always broke and never wants to go out so I'm doing many things solo.

UnhappyFappy · 2015-06-22T16:06:19+00:00

One time, a fair while back, but still relevant, I agreed to meet up with a girl I worked with, we weren't dating or seeing each other or anything just an opportunity to have a few drinks and have some fun. Mind you I had a bit of a crush on her because she was cute and sweet enough to give me the time of day.

So we were going to a gay club because she was heading there with mates for a party, all good.

So I don't go out with any of my friends because I want to spend the night talking to this girl and hopefully getting her to a place where I can seduce her...

I rock up to the club, text/call her no response go in and can't find her anywhere so I decide to forget about her and try and make the most of a good night... buy myself a drink and start at one end of the club and work my way to other just kind of chatting casually with people here and there.

I'm an introvert so I find this kind of socialising scary as... but after about the 6th or 7th person that I walked up to I got over the fear of going out alone... I found it easier to be the social person that I wanted to be, than if I was with my friends... I would have just stayed with them and drank and chatted all night. ( I feel like a bit of a fool trying to talk to girls with my mates) ...

Anyway I had a great night by myself... talked to some cool people and got 7 girls phone numbers.... of which 1 turned into a date the next night.

At the end of the first night I was feeling so great from talking to so many people I had totally forgotton about my co worker friend, met up with her outside the club once it was shut and walked her home with a kiss close.

Honestly one of my best nights ever, and I'd peg it to going out alone.

SheepKing · 2015-06-22T00:11:07+00:00

Just go alone, i've done it a few time, talk to the barmaid, often girls talk to you just grab these opportunity

Title	I'm single for the first time in about two years, most of my friends left the area, not much happening in my city, not sure where to start.
Author	INDYJONE
Upvotes	10
Comments	8
Date	June 21, 2015 9:06 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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