I have trouble implementing the escalation ladder.

I can start off easy with incidental touch on the arms etc as I can do it under the ruse of emphasising a point.

I then move on to the hand where I guess I can use palm reading as my excuse or whatever.

But now that we move on to things like the thighs, i'm not sure how to do it. Am I supposed to literally just put my hands on her legs for no reason whilst we are talking about whatever?

and after that I need to do hair, and neck etc.

I guess for hair, I could pretend that she has some lint in her hair or something

I guess my confusion is also that if you do it using a 'reason' such as palm reading or lint in the hair, then she thinks that that's the reason you are touching her and so what have I gained? But then if I do it 'without' using some sort of reason, then if she isn't attracted, won't she get freaked out (not with the arm touching, but with the legs etc)

The other part of my confusion is that i'm uncertain of the actual point? I mean, If I get to say the hair/neck kino, does that mean that It's safe to go for the kiss?

Or is the idea that the kino actually builds attraction?!

Or is it something else?