I’ve noticed this a lot on dating apps—some girls just put their Instagram handle in their bio instead of (or along with) actual prompts.

So I’m genuinely curious what the intention usually is:

• Are they mostly trying to gain followers?  • Is it a way to filter who puts in extra effort and DMs them there?  • Or is it just “I don’t check this app much, message me on Insta”?

And from a guy’s perspective… how do you even approach this?

Do you:

• Follow first and wait?  • DM directly?  • Try to be creative or just keep it simple?

Also, do girls actually respond to random DMs from dating apps, or is it mostly a lost cause?

Would be great to hear both sides—people who’ve done this and people who’ve tried messaging.

Not trying to overthink it, just trying to understand the “unwritten rules” here.

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