Hey guys, I am 20 and started daygaming 3 months ago. I have been going out at least 4 times a week. I started as a complete chode with ABSOLUTELY 0 experience with girls (no hugs, kissless, virgin).

I have a problem. When I am in state I can do well: a stunner, HB9 (who had a serious boyfriend) even said that my approach deserved an A+ (it was ''very smooth'' according to her). But good results like this are not consistent (might happen 1 or 2 days every 2 weeks).

When I am not in state, I am just terrible: I don't know what to say, I don't have any presence, my voice is weird, I am outcome dependent, it does not feel NATURAL, etc. And when I succeed at having a conversation it is very boring and either the girl ejects, or gives me a flaky number

Another thing I have noticed about these awkward moments is that I don’t know what to say and I keep using the same opener, ‘’I thought you were adorable’’ and this makes it unnatural (too mechanical); girls always pick up on it and they just leave. What can I do to fix this problem? I feel REALLY BAD about being dependent on state; I just can't get results otherwise and the problem is that I don't always reach that state of mind.

Should I even just try to be in state every time? Or is there a way not to be dependent on state

Also, how to come up with better openers other than ''I thought you were cute’’. In some cases, I can open with something good.

For instance:

If she has a resting bitch face I say: you look serious but I suspect you’re fun in the inside because I look serious sometimes (that’s what my friends say), but I know I’m not.

I have had success with this type of observational openers, but I can’t always come up with them.