Is it implicitly understood that we date multiple people at the same time, or should we be forthcoming with any new date and tell them what we do?

faceless323 · 2011-08-16T08:46:20+00:00

I've always been honest when asked if I'm seeing anyone else. If they don't ask then I don't tell them.

yokhai · 2011-08-16T14:20:48+00:00

I think this is one scenario where you let your actions speak for themselves. The player vibe is okay to give off mildly. Lets a woman know you have other interests and she isn't getting your attention because she is attractive.

But if they ask or want to take the relationship in a certain direction, yes, be honest and up front.

2011-08-16T16:11:43+00:00

Any woman of worth understands that nothing is exclusive until it's time for that talk. If I'm asked whether I'm seeing anyone else, I tell them. There's no reason not to and if they don't like it then they get friendzoned.

YeOldeThrowaway · 2011-08-16T13:40:58+00:00

Be honest when they ask, but I think it's OK to date more than one person as long as one isn't turning into a relationship. If you're sexually active with both people they need to know for their own safety, and if they clearly consider you two a couple, they need to know. Other than that, you should be fine.

I was "dating" 3 guys when I met my now husband and we hit it off. I felt a spark I'd never felt, so I cut off the other guys after my first date with him, and that was extremely difficult because I'm an over-explainer. As long as you have a plan in your mind for what you'll do should you start building a relationship with one of them, you should be fine dating multiple people.

johnny878 · 2011-08-16T17:57:21+00:00

do not bring it up, seriously, that is a horrible horrible idea.

ryno55 · 2011-08-16T21:49:41+00:00

Exclusivity is not assumed until you discuss it.

2011-08-16T14:55:54+00:00

Maintaining an aura of mystery is always a good idea.

metathesis · 2011-08-19T22:34:01+00:00

My opinion: HELL NO. I consider it an obvious moral problem to be dating multiple people. These are multiple people that you would be leading on, they are slowly falling for you and then later you pick one and tell the others its over? Screw efficiency, I for one have principles.

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