Met this girl two years ago on a structured trip known for being like love island. We hooked up a few times on the trip, however it was pretty hard and she was super hot and cold during the trip. Afterward, she went heavy with the love-bombing: flirty messages, nudes, said she missed me. Then she suddenly ghosted me while she was traveling. We live in different states and I moved on and dated other girls. It was pretty apparent from the trip though we have nothing in common.

Fast forward to now—she hits me up every once in a while when she’s thinking of visiting. Super inconsistent. Sometimes flirty and nostalgic, sometimes dry and hard to read.

Saw her yesterday for the first time since the trip two years ago. She was cold. Distant. Like talking to a brick wall (she was like this on trip till the last day). Glued to her phone. Kept giving more attention to anything but me. Barely made eye contact. We hung around my hometown and did some activities, but there was no warmth or spark. I tried to be chill and present, but it felt like she didn’t want to be there.

She might want to hang again tonight but honestly, I’m not sure if I should even bother. Part of me wants to show up confident and escalate, but another part of me thinks this is just another breadcrumb situation, and she’s not actually into me just bored because she’s traveling for work or validating herself.

I’ve got one shot tonight. Do I lean in hard and be bold or walk away with my dignity?

Not sure when some situations are just unsalvagebe.