Okay, so a little background: This cute girl that lives a few states away has some relatives I know (and I'm good buddies with) in my state. Also my female friend is good friends with her so I managed to gather some intel. I know shes shy and she's also grown up with brothers only and regularly hangs out with her brothers.

Obviously I don't like asking a girl out on social media but me being a shy guy I messaged her on instagram. To my surprise she followed me back straight away. I thought "sweet, I might have a chance".

I hit her up with the first DM, it was a bit shaky but we got it going. I made sure each time I texted back it was a slow as her. (she would take hours!!!)

About the third day, I was really surprised. I messaged her and she ended up replying real fast and giving me nicknames, roasting me and generally being all flirty. It last the whole day and I loved it. It made me feel like there was serious progress. So, I got her number and we started to snapchat (but she'd never reply back) :(

Switching over to text, I messaged her probably a day after (so the fifth day) After a few hours she saw my messages but didn't reply. I posted a story on snapchat and she didn't even check it out.

Here's the dilemma, I'm not sure if shes fucking with me, playing the chase game or just not interested. I asked my female friend who's spent time with her and she said that she's not on her phone much however, my friend thinks that she thinks I'm cute but both of us can't exactly figure out whats going on.

I want eventually meet this girl, and I know a lot of guys here with say "meet her in real life", yeah? well give me $800 and I will. It's a slow process and I want to get into a long term relationship not just to "bang". From talking to most guys it seems girls in western countries love the "chase game". But to be honest, I don't and I'm not sure what to do because I don't wanna come off as desperate or clingy.

The constant advice I keep getting is "keep calm, and time will tell". It's really testing my patience, especially which she's giving me mixed signs. It's hard to communicate yet even meet her.

Should I give up? Should I keep trying? I'm considering ignoring her but I doubt she's ever going to message me.

Like my female friend said, the good girls take more effort but are worth it at the end of the day.