Is the grass greener on the other side?

BrunoFromBrazil · 2019-08-23T15:05:37+00:00

Well I did the opposite and had sex with lots and lots of girls before deciding to settle down in a LTR.

Best decision of my life.

I do think it's important for a man to be with many girls before choosing a life partner. There are exceptions, but I'd say that it increases your chances of really being able to commit and not feel like you're missing out.

If I were you, I'd sit down quietly to mediate for a while and ponder these 2 cenarios:

1 - You're 80 years old. You're still married to your current girl and you have kids and grandkids together. She was your only. You never had sex with another girl, never had threesomes or crazy sexual adventures. Kinda wonder what it would've been like. But she's there with you, and it was a beautiful life.

2 - Same thing, but it's another girl by your side. You left your current girl, had crazy sexual experiences and lots of girls, then found one you liked and built a life with her. But as you sit there in the porch with your old lady, you always remember that first girlfriend, the one you let go, and wonder if it was the right choice.

How each one of those makes you feel? They're both bittersweet, and there's no right answer.

Just choose which one of the experiences you want to live.

Imperator_Pyra · 2019-08-23T09:43:15+00:00

You want to break up and have sex with other women. Pushing that thought away will not accomplish much good for you. Do it.

Tim, old RSD coach, did just that. IIRC, he loved his girlfriend, but left her saying "sorry, Cherish, adventure calls".

Now it's your turn to take the call to adventure.

ntipz011 · 2019-08-23T11:24:54+00:00

Was in the same situation, broke up because adventure calls, went through a lot of shit, looking back, best decision of my life.

theosamabahama · 2019-08-23T18:52:37+00:00

Before making a decision, imagine how your life would be without her. Truly imagine it, for days. It's important you value what you have before you loose it, so you don't make stupid decisions.

Most guys here will tell you to go for it because they are on this playa vibe. But they have nothing to loose, they are already single. You do have something very special with this person.

I think what you are going through is something everyone who has been in a very long relationship experiences, especially those who had only had sex with the same person, both men and women.

Maybe she would be down for an open relationship. But that is a very risky step.

If you love your girl, don't break up, man. There's a big chance you will regret it deeply. Only break up if you don't love her anymore. Only break up if you don't care anymore to be beside her.

highinhibition · 2019-08-23T09:55:58+00:00

The answer depends on the sub. You already made a choice don't think someone else is responsible for the outcome

Title	Is the grass greener on the other side?
Author	OkagaBoi
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	August 23, 2019 8:55 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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