I will say it point. A lot of guys are trying to get women to fill an inner void in their souls. But that is like reshaping a mirror to change your appearance. It doesn't work.

You will see a ton of guys who are great at attracting women but deep down they feel that void. Temporarily they feel the pleasure of the pussy but that feeling of emptiness comes back after a while.

This is one of the strange paradoxes of life. Why does a person always seem to have that hole in his heart?

Trying to find complete internal fulfilment is like climbing a slippery pole, no matter how far you go up, you always come down a little bit if not all way down.

Serving your country in the army is one of the most fulfilling thing a man can do. The fulfillment you find from the brotherhood, loyalty and honor is second to none. If you were in the military, your self-esteem would automatically go up, a lot of your insecurities would go out of the window, you would ditch a lot of your meaningless obsessions. It'd totally be a different kind of lifestyle. But there is a cost for that fulfillment. You'll probably die in war making your wife a widow and your son an orphan. Also a lot of veterans become homeless. You see that? There is a huge cost for that honor/inner-fulfillment.

On the other hand, if you look at some 6 packed seduction dude, he is living quite a comfortable lifestyle. Smoking weed, fucking bitches, making money but he can never have that level of self-respect, honor, inner-fulfilment like that serving in the military.

It's sort of like no matter what you do in life, there will always be that empty space in your heart. That "I wish I could do that!" regret.

Don't get me wrong. You should keep improving yourself. But I'm talking about the bigger picture of life.

It reminds me a quote by Benedict Cumberbatch. "Looking for happiness is a sure way to sadness, I think. You have to take each moment as it comes."

I don't know the answer cuz asking the question is meaningless. I guess the key is to live with an open heart even if it hurts.