So, not too long ago I started seeing my (then) manager and we ended up occasionally fucking. We decided it wasn't going to be serious, and we were definitely not exclusive. During this time I slept with about four other girls.

During the few months we were going at it, I asked her to open up a little more to me because I felt she was guarding herself. At one point I even mentioned I felt she was sociopathic. She told me later how this hurt her, and I made amends, but this honestly showed me she cared about how I viewed her. She ended up being more honest with her feelings and I felt we were getting closer the more we hung out, even if it wasn't going to be an exclusive relationship.

Well, last night I decided I've worked too hard for how little she's invested and told her we can no longer see each other. The jist was that we were not compatible anywhere other than work and the bedroom.

I realized exactly what I want, and how I was not going to get it with this relationship in which I probably invested too much, even as a fling.

But the point I want to make to the new guys is that it's still gonna hurt.

Even if you're consistently pulling every weekend, if you find the one girl that interests you more than the others, you still have to have boundaries. And if you decide that you've invested more than what's fair, it's still gonna suck because you're human.

You are not an emotionless fuck machine. You are a man who respects himself enough to get what he wants. That makes you vulnerable. And being vulnerable hurts sometimes.

But it's cool cause you got laid.