Just couldn't approach

garlicisgoodok · 2021-01-30T08:39:55+00:00

This is normal, and this is why it works. The vast majority of guys are paralysed by fear. Those who find a way to overcome it may succeed.

As the other comment says, if you fail you will never see these girls again.

You need to try, and know that you will be awful at this to begin with. When you get rejected and fail catastrophically, you need to laugh about how badly it went. Then you will be a little less scared, then you can repeat the process until you don't care and it feels natural.

2021-01-30T06:50:44+00:00

Remeber, you're never seeing those girls again. But now sure you don't seem like you're harrassing them so some other guy doesn't come and kick you away

M-DA-HAWK · 2021-01-30T10:53:27+00:00

Just start by saying hi or high five-ing strangers. It'll build your confidence a little. Try to work from bottom up. Say hi to someone random, complement someone and when you see a cute girl just go and say hi and try to have a natural conversation. It's hard but practice will make you better.

NateHate1402 · 2021-01-30T19:27:47+00:00

I know an easy way that I used when I first started but it won’t work for everyone and if done all the time it’ll be an overall negative.

Basically I have the unfortunate talent that many have of being able to lie to themselves so well they actually start believing it. So I decided to mix this with the power of alcohol lowing inhibitions on a night out. Basically for the first half an hour I repeat in my head “I’m the best, everyone loves me” and then continue with that mindset from then.

It makes me ridiculously confident and much more successful in interactions with both women and men so it’s not just seduction. However using this all the time might lead to narcissism or just using it as a crutch to cover over issues you need to solve to actually improve.

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2021-01-30T21:03:03+00:00

That will happen again and again until you learn to push through fear and take action. I would say expect it to keep happening, but also keep going out and working at it. It can also help if you take steps to approaching, such as asking for the time, then complimenting the next girl, then making small talk with another and building up to a full on approach. Work on building your mind and mindset in order to help you break through the fear barrier. What city are you in?

222dawg · 2021-02-02T06:44:14+00:00

if it makes you feel any better, the person you want to approach is probably also nervous! and def just focus on saying hi or whatever you will do first, don’t worry about having a whole convo or scenario planned. just get yourself to say one thing and then it will flow.

socialanimal_us · 2021-02-02T16:35:53+00:00

Checkout this video, this guys was struggling until magic happened, what do you think: https://youtu.be/m-e_bLg79nU

Title	Just couldn't approach
Author	Interesting_Sleep_57
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	January 30, 2021 4:28 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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