Just did my very first cold approach

Kjohn1990 · 2019-03-22T15:49:59+00:00

It can only get better, the more you do it the more normal it will seem and the subconscious nervous ticks you may have will disappear. And honestly if you do it right being nervous wont even matter. Best cold approach I ever did I thought I came off as real confident and good even though I was nervous as hell. On our date the girl was smiling at me ear to ear and telling me it was cute that I was nervous...I was shocked haha

WIA20XX · 2019-03-22T15:35:37+00:00

Yes. You'll learn better targeting and approaches.

The first couple hundred approaches, successful or not, build your nonverbal game.

sohaibka · 2019-03-22T17:40:02+00:00

Don't call that rejection. She was hurry of her own . Don't take it personally! Man In the end you left her better than you found her and make her happy you ,i guess you probably made her day .

Redgiant54 · 2019-03-22T20:09:56+00:00

It gets better man. Did 100 approaches in the last 6 weeks. (A break up was the kick in the butt that I needed to get started) I still get nerves but I deal with it waaaaay better. The rewards are there bro, trust me.

putcoolusernamehere · 2019-03-22T22:01:35+00:00

Yeah, I recently got out of a relationship and have taken up the cold approach again. The hardest part for me is dealing with the thought that I could be creeping girls out or annoying them. It's been draining me and making it physically difficult to approach. I'm just trying to find happiness again, but I also don't want to be super creepy or ruin someone's day (or my reputation on my campus for that matter). The thing that's helping me is the post on here the other day about leaving them better than you found them. It's easier said than done, but now that I've made it my goal to put a smile on women's faces and make their day a little better, I feel a lot more comfortable with approaching. My first few approaches I acted a bit creepy (way to indirect, following a girl for two minutes before saying hi, lingering around before approaching, persisting when it was clear she wasn't interested), but once I started to be cognizant of these things and work to make the girl more comfortable, I felt better about myself.

You did a good a job! You brightened her up with a compliment and weren't persistent when she said you had to go. Mission accomplished! You'll find someone who has the time and interest one day, probably soon! And that discomfort will start to go away once you realize you are providing value to these girls.

bittr_n_swt · 2019-03-22T22:51:43+00:00

Do more than one a day and you’ll quickly find out it becomes VERY easy after the first one.

I cold hot approach a few girls on the beach last year on holiday and it took me all my energy to approach one. After that, I felt like superman and approached more like it was a piece of cake

Kn31 · 2019-03-22T22:57:59+00:00

Good work boy, you're already ahead of most guys out there. That is fear leaving.

It's like learning a new language truly, the older you start the harder. But, only practice will make you better. And in the long run it's worth it as you'll be a better person.

Ggjhggtrrrr · 2019-03-22T15:33:56+00:00

Game is a psyop

SimpleYetClean · 2019-03-22T19:37:36+00:00

Good for you my man!

Title	Just did my very first cold approach
Author	PlayStationYSTea94
Upvotes	43
Comments	22
Date	March 22, 2019 3:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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