Labeled as a player in my campus....

nesshie91 · 2014-09-16T06:16:54+00:00

JDGAF. Its about you having fun, & having an asshole rumor actually just makes you more attractive. Always have a smile on your face, it'll make the cold bitches more annoyed hahaha

recyclablebantha · 2014-09-16T06:50:39+00:00

Hi guys for some reason i have difficulty concealing my game, perhaps i show a little bit too much intent off the bat, but i've been having pretty good results from cold approach via public transportation/library/coffee shop etc

This is something that you can moderate, at least a little. But haters are gonna hate. It's possible for people to overhear you simply talking about how busy your weekend is going to be, and they could then start a rumor that you're "a player." So there's no way to completely stop the rumors and you shouldn't bother because success will breed haters.

The only problem is that since my game revolves around playing around with my intent,confident, arrogant, playful-ish style, it seems that there are lots of rumors that I'm a player, because all the girls in my class act like they haven't seen a guy that can actually talk to girls before, and now, the girl that i actually do want is acting cold to me (completely opposite from the initial meeting) because she thinks i'm gaming her to add to my collection....

Yeah, this is something you can moderate. Being charming and gaming people does not have to involve coming off like a player.

Not to mention the way i dress and "doll myself" and the "player" image sticks on me... ....I'm fairly attractive in terms of face, i've been told i should do modeling, and i'm in decent shape with a 5 11" body and fairly average build. (once again not trying to blow my own ego...just revealing the current situation...)

I wouldn't sweat it too much. If that's the way you want to be, then be that way.

Just don't go to all that trouble if it's not really you.

Also, not to mention i'm asian in fact and since the majority of asian guys typically tend to be quieter, and softer spoken, i'm really quite different from what most girls tend to expect from an asian guy(typical stereotype is perceived to be quiet/feminine) but i'm the opposite, which i suppose gives me a novelty effect.. (I've been working really hard on this!)

Nothing wrong with this. It's proof that being Asian doesn't mean that you're less attractive, as many posts by Asians on Seddit try to claim.

How do you think i should go about this "reputation" . Should i go low-key for a while?

Are you being straight up with people or more deceptive? If you're creating messes everywhere in the aftermath of your wake, that's counter-productive. If you're really leaving girls better than you found them, then they'll refer MORE girls to you after your time with them is done.

happypillows · 2014-09-16T06:44:35+00:00

Starting off with a player reputation is much better than "that nerdy asian guy" so stop crying.

The key is always to show a different dimension of yourself. In your case, maybe you want to be more of that "friend" so that you can balance out your alpha-male reputation with the "understanding and nice" reputation.

Girls actually do like "nice" guys but only when it comes with masculinity and confidence as a lover. Girls always say they love guys that are secure enough to cry....yeah, if you are a guy that doesn't seem like somebody that can show that much emotion. Its that gap in demeanor.

What you do now is completely ignore any rumours. Because honestly, who cares? There will be girls going after you BECAUSE you're a player. If word gets around that you shut down a few slutty girls, boom, you have the "maybe he's actually a decent" guy reputation (which I'm sure you are). This is a win.

Use this to your advantage because its is a good thing. Any average guy would KILL to have this problem, now just refine it so your multi-dimensional and not a 1 trick pony-player.

DayV63 · 2014-09-16T19:43:02+00:00

This might sound rascist but every time I see an asian guy like the way you describe yourself I am a bit suprized off put isn't really the right word but I have noticed the more outgoing asian guys do seem to come across a bit douchey but I have no idea why, If I were you I'd tone the style down a bit, you might just be over dressing and grooming for the occasion, which I get a douche bag vibe from not trying to insult you but if your going to class looking like your going to a nightclub then it's too much.

Title	Labeled as a player in my campus....
Author	jeanisss
Upvotes	0
Comments	15
Date	September 16, 2014 5:43 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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