Late night text.

puaCurveBall · 2011-06-05T22:33:10+00:00

As soon as you got directions, just say "Be there in 15" and head out.

Why the fuck are you talking about her fridge when you could be heading towards her place?

heckz · 2011-06-05T21:50:53+00:00

Sounds like you could have suggested just going for a drive somewhere rather than pushing going to her place too much then worked her up so she had to go to her place or yours with you.

The fact that she texted you the next morning after you had made it clear you wanted to go to her place that night means she's definitely interested. She was giving the run around so it was good you just cut it for the night. It probably not worth going out at 1am anyway. Your later texts were pretty funny, but the beginning ones were a little chit chatty..

keep up the light and funny and then meet her up!

howdoiupvote · 2011-06-05T22:40:54+00:00

Yeah sounds like she definitely wanted you to come over. Should have just google-mapped it when she told you where her house was, ignored her questions and driven over there.

The following texts in particular I would interpret as IOIs, plus the fact that she texted you at 1am.

"why are you such a weirdo?"

"You know I kind of liked you back when i worked at Gullivers Buffet" (less of an indicator, more just straight up telling you she's interested.)

crlongch77 · 2011-06-06T10:48:26+00:00

"We can talk about shopping and shit." lolol good stuff

thedevguy · 2011-06-06T01:15:46+00:00

Me: tell me how to get there from Gulliver's Buffet

I'd love to hear you explain why you sent that message? You know how much typing is required to give directions. You really expected someone to type all that shit out? What year are you living in? In 2011 we use GPS.

Im all gross from work.

How about this for a response: "you hop in the shower and by the time you're done I'll be there. Hungry?"

solocup · 2011-06-06T17:57:28+00:00

Boss. There are a lot of things to learn from this. Needs a little calibration. Here:

Me:For real. Its too late to be kidding.

Me: We can talk about shopping and shit.

Me: i want to see whats in your fridge. every minute i get closer to falling asleep.

This is something that AFC's can benefit from - when in doubt, just say ridiculous shit. Chumps will hem and haw and end up saying something like "oh we can netflix a movie! I know this great comedy. You'll love it." Unattractive and try-hard - obviously reaching for an idea that she'll enjoy so that she'll be entertained by you coming over. Fuck that - both of you already know what's up.

Also, attitude of abundance. This guy didn't give a fuck and it comes out in these texts. Even with all the "why do you want to come over?" it's obvious she wants him to.

Me: tell me how to get there from Gulliver's Buffet

Me(i am getting annoyed and really just want to go to sleep at this point) : ok well this was fun. GNight. Her:uh okaaay

Here's where you could have done better. She initiated contact, she gave you her location. Giving only the cross streets, "why do you want to come over?" and "I have nothing in my fridge" are all Anti-Slut Defense's.

You gave her a good dose of hard-to-get and she loved it - this may be going a bit over the top. As someone else said, this is where you seal the deal. Ask for address, say you'll be there in 10, and go.

Her (about 5 minutes later): why are you such a weirdo?

This means: why didn't you come over and fuck me?

clutchPUA · 2011-06-06T21:39:52+00:00

Treat any text after 12 midnight as a booty call.

Instead of asking where do you live, you can ask for her address instead "whats your address"

At the point where she says:

Her: why do you want to come to my house? haha You could have switched to have her come over instead...not sure why you didn't provide that as a possibility. And from the answers and the vagueness she texted back with, it sounded like she was waiting for an invite to your spot.

maxormis · 2011-06-06T07:35:33+00:00

I think you did great. She just wanted to be chased and get you to write naughty text while you kept a playful game. And when you got annoyed and weren't in the mood, you shut her down. That's the way to go about things! Don't be her little puppy that gets all high on thought of maybe having sex with her and then driving through the night like an idiot just to get some tail.

You're a quality man and if she wants some of yours she'll have to earn it. -On the other hand: if you wanted it to lead to s.th. that night, I think you should have switched to talking instead of texting.

rhicks12 · 2011-06-06T04:03:54+00:00

you may have started off a little strong, with going directly to the home. perhaps a local bar or some other "open-late" location would help, because this is safe, but doesn't eliminate the opportunity to be taken home/take you home. If you're interested in her, if she says she's gross from work, a mildly flirtatious compliment such as "i don't think you could ever look gross" or "i can't picture a pretty girl like you being gross." or something along those lines to help get in her mind that you're also interested and not just going along for the ride. Telling her you're about to fall asleep also isn't a great idea, unless you've checked out of the conversation already and are just getting ready to bail. If she asks a question like you want to come over, go with something more obviously humorous and silly, or something flirtatious, as opposed to something that could be taken sarcastically. If you're feeling ballsy enough then go in for something a little sexy like "i want to have some alone time with you" or hell, a little "i couldnt get you off my mind" or "just some time to see you again :)" could be good. Instead of telling her this was fun, if you still wanted to come over, you could suggest bringing some food/drink to put in the fridge/share with her.

As far as the next morning text goes, work with whatever she gives you. take it slow but openly and confidently. She seems interested to me, and maybe you could invite her over to talk about this whole deal (set up your place to look clean and a touch of romantic), and see where it takes you. I've found unless you're a complete moron (doubt you are), going with your gut, and some advice from your penis doesn't do you wrong.

BTW- these quotes and thoughts are kind of in generalized form. i'd need to know more about the person and their history with you to get some real good stuff going, but hopefully this helps you out a bit man. Cheers!

wassat · 2011-06-07T20:04:45+00:00

Dude, kudos for the creative banter in your back-and-forth.

How long did this conversation take - Time-frame wise?

If it was not a staggered convo, there may have been some mis-calibration on your part. For example:

i want to see whats in your fridge.

She seems to be entertained/intrigued/amused by what you were saying - lots of laughing = Good. However...

every minute i get closer to falling asleep.

... may be like pushing her to an ultimatum. And, in a sense, you do:

ok well this was fun. GNight.

Which is cool - man's gotta sleep. But it's the manner in which which you said it.

You seem like a funny dude; a cocky/funny end to the convo would likely yield better future results.

Anyways, what came of this? Did she contact you again?

usherzx · 2011-06-09T19:01:48+00:00

she wanted you to come over and make sex with her

dertup4 · 2011-06-05T22:05:25+00:00

so much fail here...

Title	Late night text.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	8
Comments	20
Date	June 5, 2011 9:31 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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