Lesbian Checking In. Help

Lord_cloud · 2019-05-22T05:34:48+00:00

If you really care about this girl than do so. Why does someone else have say in regards to your feelings

codewizbambam · 2019-05-22T06:49:44+00:00

How about honesty?

Radicalmattitude1 · 2019-05-22T22:24:04+00:00

I’d say don’t be too hard on yourself first off. Mean things tend to be said in heated arguments.

Next thing would be to make peace in your own mind by accepting that maybe you aren’t meant to be together. (Maybe you are, but that remains to be seen and there’s no point fucking yourself up over in the mean time, have some emotional resiliency)

The third thing is to try to get good with women in general. This one experience is just that, a learning experience. The more you have, the more you’ll learn. You put yourself out there, you meet new girls, you fall in love, you have incredible adventures, you make a ton of girls happy, you piss some off, you make girls madly in love with you, sometimes you get your heart broken, and life goes on. But now you know more, you learned how to do better next time. That’s what it takes to be really seductive.

You have your work cut out for you being a girl trying to learn how to pick up other chicks, but I’ve seen plenty of lesbians that are great at it. You can learn how to do it too, but there are many lessons to be learnt. Maybe the first of many lessons is one that you are getting right now. Think of it as a gift. Good luck

bemore_ · 2019-05-28T13:18:22+00:00

Very bluntly for brevity. You didn't "develop feelings", you invested your emotions into each other. It's hard to let go of investments, even bad one's

I don't understand how another person can make rules about how you should go about your life. Your mutual friend can apply her rules to herself but not to others

I love you, I love you not .. highschool stuff. It's not about loving or not loving, it's about respect. When you feel good and there's no conflict it's easy to love, when you feel bad you wanna make others feel the pain. Instead you want to work on yourself. Can you not feel pain and hold on to the thought that you care about someone. Draw the line somewhere, make your own rule here. There's your lesson

As for the girl you have feelings for, you can show her or you can tell her. I'm not talking about big gestures, small things that affirm you like her. Really you don't have to do much but spend time together and appreciate each other

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2019-05-22T14:31:27+00:00

I dont understand how this is thé love of your life if you haven't met yet.

I believe you are in love with your fantasy. In my expérience this is thé best way to get hurt because you have lots of expectations right now.

Trust me , and dont believe in words but Rely instead on actions. This group chat is only msg.

For now , i advise you to calm your tits and wait until you Girls finaly meet.

If i missunderstood your text, and if you Girls already met , then what's wrong ?

Just tell her you went overheating , and you Still have feeling.

How old are you ?

I think thé bs excuse on WhatsApp that said nodating , was a easy way for her tell you she's not interested anymore.

Learn disqualification and let her Come to you. Right now you're chasing Ur fantasy

HeavyMeringue · 2019-05-22T08:19:05+00:00

Let her go if you need to,but she has to initiate contact first and apologise for giving you grief in the first place.Then tell her you didn't like her position when you argued and ask her how is she willing to make this up to you.

symptomunknown · 2019-05-22T07:56:22+00:00

Get yourself some dick girl

civilsavage69 · 2019-05-22T08:25:24+00:00

So, i really dont expect this to get through to a woman, especially a lesbian, but here goes.

You, like most women, have a self knowledge problem. Your entire story is a confirmation of this. You ruined chances with something you really wanted, because you reacted emotionally in the moment over something not worth getting emotional over, and you didnt know yourself enough to head off the possibility. Example, for me, if i have sweets in the house, i know ima pig out on em. Knowing myself, i dont buy sweets to keep at home, so that if i want some, i have to take that extra step to go out and get some. Concerning you, you dont realize these things until after the fact, and you dont appear to see this is a fundamental underlying problem.

I already see you being a divorce waiting to happen. Nobody wants to keep an emotional triggerbitch who even destroys herself cause she wasnt thinking.

Women are in a sad position in life. They do things that are wrong, and no one teaches them theyre doing wrong cause theyre too busy trying to bang you. Then further down the line they become self destructive.

Your best chance, is to recognize you have inner game to work on, get into some therapy, admit it to the chick you like and see if she is willing to stick with you while you figure yourself out.

Title	Lesbian Checking In. Help
Author	Stormnose
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	May 22, 2019 5:22 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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