Long-Term Seduction

norwegiandoggo · 2024-08-27T07:16:29+00:00

At this point it's all about your relationship skills. For that i super recommend the book "7 Principles for making marriage work" and watching videos from the Psychology in Seattle YouTube channel. I've also heard great things about the book "Attached" but i haven't read it yet. It's on my list though

Signal-Werewolf-8064 · 2024-08-27T06:56:53+00:00

Authenticity and vulnerability,not being afraid to show off your rough edges, meaning flaws and imperfections. Constantly becoming a better version of yourself.

You may get a girl you like,but to keep her you have to keep on working.

Btw,this applies to all aspects of life too.

Jironasaurus · 2024-08-27T11:26:59+00:00

Great question! This relates to retention, so everything you do here is all about long term. Here are 3 things you can do:

Deep connection

Unfortunately, there is no easy way around this. You gotta let her in. Being vulnerable is key, from both you and her. You have to show her your fears and insecurities. She has to really get to know who you are, deep down inside. Likewise, she has to show you who she is.

This also cannot be accomplished without lots of conversation. The both of you have to constantly share what's going on in your mind. Opinions you may have, deep seated beliefs that show her the real you, your core values, etc.

Then there's your past (experiences you've had) and the future you wish to build with her. That leads to...

Shared experiences

The more things you live life together with someone, the more attachment there will be.

I am not just talking about the mundane day to day, though that is still a big part of it. But I am referring to spending time together doing different activities. Going on plenty of different dates are shared experiences. Cooking together is a shared experience. Doing something new together like... dance lessons. Going on holiday trips together. All of the emotions and stories you get from living these experiences... it creates a bond between the both of you.

But novelty is important here too. You cannot be staying home and Netflixing all day long for months, and hope to build shared experiences like that. It gets boring, and kills the relationship fast.

You being awesome

Sounds like a lot of work, but unfortunately, this is just human nature. She will want to invest more into you, the more she appreciates you. In order for her to do that, you have to show her that you are worth the investment. So, this is not about how great your physique is, or how much money you make ultimately. But it is about how amazing your person is. That's why if you are constantly working on being a better person, you'll have no problems keeping people in your life.

(She also has to be the same, of course, for you to stay invested.)

Hope that helps!

Dandys3107 · 2024-08-27T11:43:27+00:00

You should keep “seducing” your girl all the time, it keeps your mind sharp and creative and your relation will surely stay passionate and very pleasurable. In general attachment is about sharing that deep intimacy, strong emotions and unique moments, you should keep pursuing them even if you already got to the last base with a girl.

Skarnor · 2024-08-27T12:34:12+00:00

Why do you want it long term? Are you looking for a long term relationship?

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-27T18:06:43+00:00

Extend the timeline.

ballfond · 2024-08-27T07:40:48+00:00

It's not about you but your partner,

They are a human not a machine where you get the same results from the same formula ,

Let go of control obsessed nature and enjoy life

Title	Long-Term Seduction
Author	AdventureCat13
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Date	August 27, 2024 6:45 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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