Lose weight first than go approach chicks?

abstractpickupartist · 2017-03-24T04:25:09+00:00

Of course you start now, but don't start with cold approaches in clubs, start building the social foundation now.

Workout in the hiking and ultimate frisbee groups. Co-ed volleyball. Color runs. Do fun things, and don't worry about getting laid yet.

Having friends and social skills will back up the six pack you are building.

Deadskull00 · 2017-03-24T01:21:36+00:00

I would say focus on yourself first. If you're happy with yourself then you will be much more confident and as a result better socially.

apphon · 2017-03-24T19:52:22+00:00

Yeah, my nigga. That's the plan. Like men don't like chubby chicks, Chicks don't like fat and lazy niggas. Looks do matter, if someone is trying to tell you something different, just know, he is a fake nigga and he is bullshitting on you.

So get in shape and while you do this, keep your game up and approach everything you are attracted to.

Good Luck !

IntrovertedBadass · 2017-03-25T07:18:45+00:00

Hey man, I understand how you feel.

But remember this: “You don’t have to be perfect to start, but you need to start to become perfect.” “You’ll never be 100% ready so just start.”

To answer your question more specifically, I’d suggest you work on both. Start a diet and go to the gym. The fact you have a plan makes you already more confident. even after 2 or 3 sessions at the gym you’ll feel better about yourself.

At the same time work on getting experience with women.

Combine both. As you said. There are some overweight guys who are good with girls, but they have experience. Well guess what they did to get that experience?

Here’s a little tip that will help you shortcut your way to success. Build a small social group of just female friends. And go out with them. Go out with them and you’ll get a lot more attraction signs from women regardless of your weight. But yeah man you’ve got some work to do, so get started right now. Hope it helps.

killjoii098 · 2017-03-25T22:23:10+00:00

Honestly, with enough personality, you can attract any woman.

Janemba_Corvalis · 2017-03-24T02:56:06+00:00

Might as well just approach now. At the very least it'll give you experience. Definitely work on your image though.

galactic_fury · 2017-03-24T06:12:48+00:00

Unfortunately, you do need to lose weight OR be really unafraid of cold approaching and getting rejected. The simple fact is that our society values certain traits a lot and being fit is certainly one of them. So If you want to improve your chances, you do need to live a healthier life.

That being said, you can focus on other things that will also help you. Try to get a better voice tonality. Dress well...this would be a great motivation also as you will see clothes becoming loose as you lose weight.

I said that society values thinness, but let me also add that girls don't universally like thin, fit men: some of them might not mind or may find a little overweight man attractive. We're all humans and we all like to experiment sometimes or have different preferences from the herd. Which means that above all... you should KEEP approaching. You have to get experience under your belt.

Edit: abstractpickupartist offers some great advice.

rockintomordor · 2017-03-26T00:44:32+00:00

The thing about fitness is, yeah, it's attractive. But looking like He-man isn't as important as confidence. Yeah, I know, kind of a clichè answer, but it's seriously like magic. I've done it lately. I recently made the choice I was going to stop wasting my life and be positive and confident, even if I had to force myself to.

The results are like magic. No, I don't have girls drooling over me, but I am actually aware of when women are showing interest. I'm 5'5" and in only two months my dating life is a wreck because I don't know how to handle everyone. Not saying that's desirable, but my point is confidence will change your life just as dramatically, if not more, than how you change your appearance.

I'm remembering something I heard once that I think applies here: "You will not be defeated by what they (other people) say about you, you will be defeated by what you say about you."

That includes the thoughts you think to yourself. Best of luck.

Title	Lose weight first than go approach chicks?
Author	Amar223
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Comments	9
Date	March 24, 2017 1:07 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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