Making friends

TolarianFapper · 2013-04-20T21:23:26+00:00

Seduction is built upon the idea that one must offer up something of value. Making friends and maintaining friendships is the same way. No one wants to go to a gathering and get value-leached. You're planning gatherings but the people you invite do not see the value in you or your gatherings - that's why people aren't attending. They may even think that they're higher in value than you are. While sarging, meet multiple groups of people in one night and merge the sets. Be the hub and the life of the party. Say and do interesting things. Next time you're at a gathering of a cool/popular guy, see how he deals with things. It all comes down to being attractive (value-offering) enough while you're with someone for them to want to attend one of your gatherings.

KingAndre · 2013-04-20T23:16:07+00:00

Yup, I usually have trouble getting most of my friends to come out with me as well. I usually sarge during the evenings and I am real comfortable in a bar/club setting. I go out to dance and that usually attracts the people who generally go out to have fun. I've made dozens of friends purely by being on the dancefloor. These are the type of people who I can usually see out again during the weekends.

Once I was out as usual and I saw a couple of my bar buddies involved with their friend's bachelor party. I was out alone that night but after chatting up my buds they invited me to mingle with them and join the party. I have no idea who the groomsman was but I left that night with a shot glass for the party guests.

Moments like that make me open to making new friends while I'm out. Yeah, I have my close circle of friends that I normally talk to but when it comes to going out on the weekends I can almost rely on seeing at least a couple of my bar buddies out just about every time.

fredrickso · 2013-04-20T20:28:13+00:00

I talk to people and be myself. Confidence is key. People aren't stupid though, especially women. Women have a fine-tuned sense of seeing if someone is comfortable with them self. They will never admit it, but they tend to be attracted to men who think highly of themselves. Men also are attracted, not sexually (unless gay), to confident men.

HeroVillainIsMe · 2013-04-20T20:49:44+00:00

Those people are shit friends.

I went online and met up with a couple last week when the people i knew were busy. Had a fairly productive night, went somewhere different and met two new people. If i didn't move around so much with my job/live a bit too far away i'm sure we'd hang out more and create a large circle together.

I think the guy has a point. You have to create your own opportunities, i was like him a couple of years back and then, boom, i just did stuff.

Bevman00 · 2013-04-21T04:33:40+00:00

Read How to Make Friends and Influence People. It'll do wonders. Introducing NLP by Seymour and O'Connor is also a fantastic read on the subject.

NomadicBit · 2013-04-24T22:31:46+00:00

Honestly there is no silver bullet for this. People will flake for a number of reasons. Maybe they were invited to something else that sounds way better to them, maybe they are truly busy, maybe they are horrible friends...etc. You can make a list a mile long and it won't explain why people behave in this fashion. After 27 years and living in over 40 places in the US I can say this is a common American issue. People suck, are self centered and generally don't deserve the time of day. I can't tell you how many times I've had a friend actually show up to something I invited them to only to have everyone all the sudden wondering why they aren't getting invites to my awesome life. Well, mostly because they never show up. Then they ask why I don't tell anyone about all the cool shit I do...once again because noone ever asks, and I generally dislike anything that sounds like I'm bragging. Just go on living and being awesome. not much you can do about about the fact that most people suck unless you can immediately guarantee that you will enrich their lives. Keep inviting them if you want. This will at least let them know that you want their company. Otherwise fuck em.

madog20x · 2013-04-20T21:18:42+00:00

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Title	Making friends
Author	criticalhit
Upvotes	25
Comments	8
Date	April 20, 2013 7:59 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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