Hi guys, So I recently started reading this subreddit, and have been doing a lot to apply it to my life. I am meeting more women and getting more #s and dates than ever before so this stuff is obviously real! I am not trying to have sex with as many girls as possible, I really just want one great relationship.

I seem to be stuck at a level where I can meet girls (gym, bar, starbucks, online), get a # and schedule a date. Hang out with the girl 2-3 times and then she won't want to see me again, saying something along the lines of "Im mean", or "No one treats me like that" This always hurts to hear, because when I don't actively think about applying the ideas of this sub, I am a bend over backwards nice guy. This has happened enough times (10?) that I think its not a fluke.

To be honest, my limited understanding of this subs ideology boils down to 1) having an abundance mentality 2) let her join you in your awesome life 3) Be cocky/funny

Having this mindset sometimes makes me come off as indifferent to her, and sometimes an asshole. So my question is, what is my problem? Is it as simple as Im just going too extreme with these concepts and need to tone it back a bit? Am I expecting great results too early in the game?

Any help is appreciated, thank you.