Hey guys,

So I live in a small city/town that has about 10 bars, and 2 that I frequent because I feel like I meet the best people (friends and girls) there. I have lived in this area for a few months, so I've become friends with some people who frequent these places as well, and recognize many more faces.

A few nights ago I met a great girl at one of these places. I don't have a worthy FR to tell you, it was pretty standard. Just got to know each other over drinks and conversation, kino, played some arcade-style games, had a fun time. Invited her back to my place and she was all for it. She spent the night, everything went great. Im going to keep seeing this girl. Things didn't get weird til the next day.

We meet for dinner the next night, at which point she tells me (not angrily, just testing me I think) that her friends said to her "Seddithelpplease is at that bar every other night with a different girl. He is gross. You have to be careful" When I went to the bathroom and she's was sitting at the table by herself, one of her friends from the previous night randomly came into the same restaurant and said "Lemme guess, he stood you up?" The thing that bothers me the most is that the people who said those things about me I DONT EVEN KNOW, AND HAVE NEVER TALKED TO IN MY LIFE. It bothers me that people Ive never talked to think that about me.

I do hook up with a decent amount of girls, but I am honestly looking for a good longterm relationship. I guess my questions are, how do you deal with this perception? The fact that people see me this way really bothers me, as its not who I am. I won't lie and say I don't enjoy the sex, but I always do intend on things going farther than that one night, they just very often don't. Also I feel like this reputation is going to cause the girl I really want to meet to think of me as a scumbag.

Thoughts? Is this something you deal with? Does my thought process make sense? Am I full of shit and just trying to rationalize my actions?