Men get stupider when given the possible chance of interacting with a woman, study finds (x-post from r/sex)

Dred · 2011-11-28T01:55:26+00:00

Lets turn this into a discussion on AA and your own personal ways of overcoming/moving past it.

frogma · 2011-11-28T07:32:50+00:00

Well, one of the best things to keep in mind is that a lot of girls deal with semi-similar issues, you just don't notice because they're better at hiding it (not that guys are generally that bad at hiding it- most of the negative thoughts you deal with are literally just in your head). So keep that in mind. If you're not visibly shaking or fumbling every other word, nobody realizes how nervous you are. One way to help with that is to practice good body language and speak from your diaphragm.

More specifically with this study, I don't think "stupid" is the right word for the impairment they were experiencing. Nerves is more like it. Plus I hate that fucking color test. Also, this study really only shows that men think more about sex in general (or get more excitable at the prospect of talking to the opposite sex) than girls do. A better study would be one where you have the people talk to each other first and then perform some sort of measurement (or measure them somehow while they're actually talking).

Someone mentioned an experiment a teacher did where she asked her students to rate each others' nervousness when they made speeches. Each student usually gave themselves a rating of like 70-80, but then the other students would rate them as like a 20-30. And that was true for pretty much every student.

Point being, even if you are nervous, or somehow actually stupider, first of all so is every other guy (and a good amount of girls), and secondly, people don't tend to notice much (because if it was actually an issue, like the author said, guys would have a difficult time functioning in a world with women).

As for dealing with AA, not giving a shit seems to help. Pumping myself up before going out always works. Alcohol obviously helps. And "practice" sets help. Usually in a night of partying, I'm doing all of those things simultaneously, so later on when I'm out, there's no such thing as approach anxiety anymore. If you really have issues, it also tends to help by taking note of the problems the girl has (even with really hot girls, you can usually find at least a couple things that maybe aren't so attractive, and then just keep those things in mind). So I look at a girl and I think "Man she's really hot, but her nose is kinda big so it's not like she's Helen of Troy or anything, so I'm gonna go talk to her." Then I find out she talks too much or uses stupid words like "fetch" and now it's like I'm the catch in this situation. Just don't overdo it with the judgments because then you'll start walking away from a lot of girls who are at least semi-decent. But it helps to think about those things (just in a non-serious way).

_valtiel_ · 2011-11-28T03:31:09+00:00

It's a known fact that women don't like nerds. I like to keep the fact that I still watch anime cartoons under wraps.

Title	Men get stupider when given the possible chance of interacting with a woman, study finds (x-post from r/sex)
Author	Dred
Upvotes	11
Comments	10
Date	November 28, 2011 1:54 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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