Been a lurker here for a couple of months. Seddit has really helped me broaden my mind in the dating world. I am generally a fairy shy guy but I have managed to improve a lot on myself with the advice on Seddit.

A lot of Seddit talks about improving inner game, such as working out, fashion, hobbies, etc. I spent a whole month improving myself on those various catergories and I definitely feel an improvement. However, I wondered why I was still not having success with girls I wanted. From this, I realized that generally some of us preach too much about working on the inner game and instead of actually going out to do it. A guy who constantly goes out and puts himself out there with women will generally have more success than the guy who is waiting for the right opportunity.

There is no right opportunity! Just go up to the girl and say hi! One great thing I learned from Seddit is "You miss 100% of the shots you do not take." Essentially, you would regret much more over not asking the girl out than if she said no.

I decided it was time to stop the b.s. I had and ask the girl I've been eyeing on for a couple of months. We've been friends for a while now and she definitely did not see me as anything more than a friend. I finally mustered up the courage to ask her out. She specifically told me "lets hang out and see where it goes." So far we've only been holding hands the past week.

My question right now is, How do I not get as emotionally involved/invested in a girl? The thought of me not being sure whether or not she is as into me really hinders me around her. I do not feel like I am being myself when I'm with her because of this, and thus it leads to awkward moments when we go on dates. Seddit, what tips do you have to relax a little more around the girl and be natural / myself?