I have become pretty successful at this, startring out from being an AFC. I love this community, but often I get frustrated by people who ask the same questions over and over; of course without reading the sidebar which I believe it's a masterpiece of into to seduction.

So, this is my short overview on seduction.

First of all, we all need to give our own definition to what seduction means.

My definition:

Seduction: generating attraction.

If I can generate enough attraction for a girl to exchange phone number, we'll figure out a way to exchange phone numbers. And even if I forget, she'll be the one suggesting it.

If I can generate enough attraction for the girl to want to be kissed... she'll let me know, body language or just plain language...

If I generate enough attraction for the girl to want to be naked with me in private.... you know what I mean.

Which leads to my own principle of seduction: it's all about escalation, escalation, escalation. Escalation of flirting and kino.

Think of it that way: you see a girl that you like.. yadda yadda yadda you're in bed naked together.

How did that happened? That yadda yadda yadda is nothing more than escalation, at times it takes an hour or so, at times it takes one or more dates. It depends on your personal style, the chemistry, and randomness.

Before I approach: are you doing the cold approach? If so, you understand that the rejection rate will be high, very high. And there might be another girl nearby interested in you, who's observing who will be put off by the fact that you are rejecting by one girl, and then you try to approach her. So, before I approach I make sure that I have some indication of interest. Either some gestures after some eye contact. I don't do the nightgame, I prefer social settings like parties, so conversations happen with a few people, as few as 2-3 and as many as 8-10, there's always someone that I don't know, and there's always someone cute that I am interested in. It's a natural segue after a group conversation to continue one-on-one. There are many topics: from introduction, how do you know the host, etc...

Approach: see above

End the Approach: I believe in going out on a high note. Somewhat in the middle of a great conversation Look at the time, I have to..... go, talk with so and so, go to another party.... It was great meeting you, great conversation... depending on the chemistry and context, some exchange of phone #, email, FB happens, with the intent of continuing the conversation. At this point we've already started to flirt, and kino. Flirting has already gone into at least the sexual innuendo, she's a girl, I am a guy; nobody is friendzoning anyone. And kino is already at an intermediate level: we've given each other a quick massage, I have shown how I can undo her bra in 1 second with one hand (I fail at it each and every time), I have asked her to close her eyes and to describe to me the sensation of my hands going from her ankles up to her knee where I stop (we are in public after all).. we've given a full body hug...

Setting up the first meet* not a first date: First I send a message restating my name and the context how we met, ending with remember me?. She's hot, she knows it, she has spoken with a few guys I am sure. Of course I remember you is a common reply. So now she has the text thread or email thread of FB thread. Since we are now communicating with the intend of continuing the conversation, a few messages will seal the deal of where and when. I make sure I am the one deciding on the time and place, and she is the one accepting it. It's a psychological reason dealt with many times in this forum and on PUA literature.

First Meet: either coffee or drinks, depending on chemistry and such. It's 30 minutes for coffee, 1 hour for drinks. I pay if it's coffee, I pay first round if it's drinks. Here there's an escalation of flirting and kino, we talk about favorite sex positions, secret fantasies, kino escalate to touching above the knee, skin on her back or front (no breasts). During the conversation I weave something at my place that one day she has to see: my guitars, my cooking, books that I have, music, killer martinis that I make, art, you name it. I have a variety of interests and we are compatible. Depending on the circumstances and chemistry, we go to my place, or we decide that next time we meet at my place for Pizza and a movie. It really doesn't matter, if she wants to be in my place with me, any escuse would do.

At my place: music in the background, nothing romantic, it's my place and she's a guest. Classi Rock is what I like. Then it's drinks, I put one in her hands, and I give her the tour of the place. There are many interesting things to see, including my bedroom ;-). My place is clean, but a bit messy. Of course the bedroom is the last room of the tour. And from there we go back to the living room. At times I can sense that she expected something to happen in the bedroom, but that could be a missed signal that her guards were up. Since I have been a gentleman, she's now relaxed, I have a great confortable couch, we sit there close, very close, crossing each other's legs, and we continue to drink, talk, listening to music and eventually making out and escalating from there is a natural progression.

In broad stroke that is my Modus Operandi, at times it has taken me 1 hour or a few hour to F-close, at times it has taken me multiple meets across months (different schedules, relationships etc...). And I don't have a 100% success rate, at times along the line we realize that we're not compatible or that we want different things. We remain friends.

You don't have to follow my steps, this is what works for me. But the principle is still the same: escalate flirting and kino, at whatever speed you can given your skills, chemistry and context. It is that simple.