My Pick-Up Attempts Lead Nowhere

sedtawy · 2015-11-02T08:19:39+00:00

True success doesn't come from a routine. That said, it sounds like you need to work on the way you project yourself. A little enthusiasm goes a long way. Try practicing talking enthusiastically in front of a mirror. Then try holding enthusiastic conversations with people. That's about the best advice I can give.

recyclablebantha · 2015-11-02T17:36:49+00:00

I have a hard time closing whether it's number, kiss, of F close.

Every girl is going to be a case by case basis. I know you like routines as a tool but you can't plan for this many different kinds of girls ahead of time. It would take so many routines and a ton of trial and error to know which routines go with which kinds of girls. And then routines have a lifespan after which girls catch on...... It's giving me a headache just thinking of all this.

Since it's on a case by case basis, you're going to have to go in, escalate slowly and pay attention to her feedback as you do that. Her responses to your touch and you being in her space..... will tell you how welcome you are. Which tells you whether to turn the heat up or cool it off and try later. Or when to abort, in the worst case.

I also feel like convey a boring image, but I know that I'm not because, in a way, I feel like Forest Gump, because I have great stories that are just waiting to be uncovered. Either way, even if I tell my awesome stories, it's not like I'm going to do anything.

Look, you're working too hard at this, if you're focused on trying to tell your stories, etc. You want to fit into the "male role?" Then you're offering validation and the girl is seeking it..... which means you're getting her to talk. If you are trying to dominate the conversation by talking more, you're kind of trying to fill both roles in the conversation.

Short answer: Stop trying to figure out how to tell your stories and focus on encouraging her to talk.

Ask her a question. Listen with 100% of your brain. (So no thinking about what you want to say.) Then when she stops talking, you think about what she said and ask some question or make a comment about what she just said. Overall, you want to think about what makes her tick. So questions that get at her emotions or motivations on some subject, are great.

Let me know if I can elaborate on any part of this........

WayOfTheGentleman · 2015-11-03T09:41:38+00:00

How challenging are you? How often do you call girls on their bullshit? Do girls ever feel like you could walk away in a second if they don't match up to the standards you require?

Most problems guys have with women are a manifestation of one of two things:

They are carrying shame around sex and are scared of looking 'creepy' so play safe, never show any sexual intent and stay in the friend zone.
They are constantly trying to impress the girl. They never qualify her and she feels like 'he's interested now and he'll always be interested no matter what I do.'

Certainly it sounds like you suffer from the second problem if you feel you're not doing enough right now and you need some magic routine to win them over.

Why don't they need to come up with something amazing in order to win you over? Why are you the one who has to impress them?

TheXXL · 2015-11-02T08:20:11+00:00

I'm okay-looking, in okay shape, average height, great sense of style, I can carry a conversation decently, but my pick-up leads to nowhere.

You are aware that pick up does not teach us to talk girls into our beds.

I have a hard time closing whether it's number, kiss, of F close.

Then work on that... without knowing even a single little thing if you are even trying, and if.. what you are trying, how you are trying, nobody will be able to help you.

I also feel like convey a boring image, but I know that I'm not because, in a way, I feel like Forest Gump, because I have great stories that are just waiting to be uncovered. Either way, even if I tell my awesome stories, it's not like I'm going to do anything.

Did you watch the movie? do you remember where forrest gump got all the ladies, fucking around wherever he goes? no? me neither. You dont talk girls into bed, not with cool routines, not with cool stories etc.

I need a routine, I believe. Can anyone help me?

No you dont need a routine, you need to get sexual. You need to get bold, to grab that girl and kiss that girl, and if she does not like it, don apologize. You are a man, and men take what they want without hesitation. That weighs so much more than telling cool stories, which btw. everyone does, those girls have heard this a hundred million times before...

Title	My Pick-Up Attempts Lead Nowhere
Author	this_guy2001
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	November 2, 2015 3:29 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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