Recently I've been having revolution on how i perceive my own game. I've been Studying Inner game eagerly because i lacked so much of it, and the common advise on here was "work on your outer game first, then your inner game will come." My outer game is fine, but sometimes when I'm having conversation with HB, I become outcome dependent. For example, Whenever i meet a new HB. My mind is always constantly thinking about the process of gaming her (Attraction, Rapport,Sed), but instead of being in the moment, i get caught up in the process. Does anyone else feel this way? Well, because i did that a lot whenever i talked to women, and had terrible results. My confidence and ego would just shrink and i would feel terrible. So during the summer, i made it my mission just to purely study inner game. I started off with Real social dynamics the Blue Print decoded, and i had to say this changed how i saw the world and how i saw myself as a person. If you haven't seen The Blue Print i would HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT, it discusses how social conditioning shaped us the way we think and act in the world. People are seeking value off other people, men seeking validation from women or worse from their approach. The blue print is all about self identity and relaying on yourself to be the good source of energy. Ever since I've watched it, my game has increased tremendously and has heighten my confidence. But recently ive been having issues because a certain girl has made me feel uncomfortable escalating her, i tried getting sexul with her but she puts up ASD, i tried my best and every time i make a move i feel awkward and i begin to think how chody i am. Not until recently I've started watching another inner game and confidence builder from the Social Man (Christian Hudson) Unbreakable. I've barely just started watching it, and of course Chris start talking about being a valuable man. Here is my revelation. Chris said that something that is valuable is something that is important, but of course its deeper than that. Think of a girl you like right, who you want to get with, think about how important (value) she is to you. She might valuable to you for difference reason, the current girl i'm interested is valuable to me because i believe she can help get passed my escalation issue, realizing the importance of it made realize i had nothing to fear because it is valuable to me. So my point is that, if you're ever having trouble with a girl, anything like "i have trouble making out with this girl." or whatever, remember why is it important to you and why is it important to you in your game. If you can answer that, then you become a high status male because now you know the price of something, but you're not scared of it, because you're setting the value of it. You being to understand the value of things, and once you understand the value of something you begin set value prices on everything. If you dont understand, here's an example. A couple days ago, i was at school eating my lunch, and i saw a guy wearing something cool (something i would wear.) but i noticed his body language was terrible, but he looked like a pimp. I was debating or not to give him a compliment because i never gave a guy a compliment about his clothes, i said fuck it because i set value on how important it was to make somebody feel good. My mindset was "if you want to get value, you gotta give value." So i went up to him and told him he looked like a pimp. He said thanks, and we discuss about clothes and stuff. I felt good.

TL;DR. What is important to you? Because Something important is valuable, and if you know what is important to you then you know your value. So begin to ask yourself about everything that is important to you. JUST KNOW WHY SOMETHING IS IMPORTANT TO YOU!

Also another reason why i learned my game isn't as good i want it to be because i believe i wasn't that important, i had the mindset that it will take years for me to become good with women, so minus well play it safe, but now that i making it important, i want to get good with women NOW.

Busy = Important.

Important = High Value.