My take on "LMR"

rjepqsqsu · 2012-01-19T04:52:07+00:00

My understanding of LMR is that a girl might put out resistance to sex for many reasons. The only way I've ever dealt with LMR (I believe) is to respectfully show a girl if she didn't want to have sex, I was OK with it. I didn't expect anything out of her. Whatever she is comfortable with.

Isn't it common sense that the reaction to LMR is backing off? What other option makes any sense?

What other option is legal?

iznou · 2012-01-19T19:14:49+00:00

CaptainJack would get plenty of LMR because his game was so tight that he would have girls back at his house within hours. They were naturally a little apprehensive about things moving so fast.

That is probably the only case when LMR would make sense to me.

Meanwhile, lots of guys practice "value/attraction game" which I think sometimes gives girls the wrong idea. If you're coming off a little gay, she might not even have sex on her mind when you take her back to your house. Then all of these "LMR techniques" begin to look and feel ridiculous.

Lukealicious (Luke Krogh) used a lot of verbal game and apparently would have a totally friendly attitude until he got more intimate with a girl, and would amp up the verbal sex talk until she made a move on him, at which point he would throw some LMR at her. Not my style for many reasons, but it worked for him.

Personally when I get into bed with a girl we both know what's going to happen, because that's my attitude from the very beginning. I show intent with body language, eye contact, kino, and eventually just talking about sex and expectations (playfully of course).

The one LMR technique I have used to great success is the freeze-out, which does not have to be a big production like you might have read. You don't have to turn on the lights or check your email or any such thing. Just back off and chill. She will jump your bones, as the OP experienced.

Finally you will want to learn the "Kung Fu Penis" by El Topo, that shit will make LMR go away too... but as I said before, the girl really should know (and take responsibility for) what she's getting into. Kung Fu Penis is more of a sexual push/pull that gets the girl more engaged in the sex, (which is what I want in the first place!) so I use it whether or not I get "LMR", because it makes the sex better.

Stythe · 2012-01-19T15:04:32+00:00

Yep, don't push it. I had a girl over who kept stating her vag was not entering the ring that night. We kept up with the heavy petting getting progressively more naked but she wouldn't let me reach into her panties. Finally we were both in our underwear and she went to reach into mine when I stopped her, told her that isn't fair and kept going. Didn't take long for her to change her mind.

frogma · 2012-01-19T14:22:47+00:00

4 standard methods always talked about (you can use just one, or all 4 depending on the context):

Freeze-out. It's where you stop doing what you're doing and wait for her to reinitiate.
Back off and re-escalate. Let's say you're making out and she's liking it. But then you slide your hand down towards her pants and she pulls it back up. That's fine- keep making out and getting her hot, then slide your hand back down again. 9 times out of 10, she wants it that second time, even though she was against it the first time.
Good ol persuasion/reassurance.
Agree and escalate. Only to be used when she says a standard line like "We shouldn't be doing this." Agree with her and escalate anyway.

The trick with all of these is that she has to accept whatever it is you're already doing. That's what consent is. If she doesn't want it, you back off. Pretty simple concepts, but there's definitely some grey areas.

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-01-19T08:13:49+00:00

I prefer the Mystery method: feed her food before so she feels comfortable.

Title	My take on "LMR"
Author	GettinSunny
Upvotes	15
Comments	25
Date	January 19, 2012 4:42 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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