My wing fucked up

Woujo · 2017-05-25T14:51:50+00:00

He went up to them and instead of opening, he literally said "my friend wants to get your #" and of course it got real awkward.

Only AFCs think this is awkward.

The movies make people think it's awkward.

As long as you are not needy or desperate, it's not awkward.

I mean, your friend IS a fucking idiot, but a situation is only awkward if you let it be.

If I were you, I would have just walked up and said like "yeah, don't listen to him, he's too direct, but I do think you're cool and I'd like to get to know you better."

It was awkward because YOU LET IT BE AWKWARD.

Otherwise, I'm not sure what the point of this post is.

marthdotsk · 2017-05-25T19:03:47+00:00

Well, you over-drama'd the whole thing. As much as women may like talking about or being involved in drama, it's an absolute turn-off for them when men are involved in it.

While your wing was certainly clumsy in his approach, there is always a way to recover. Best way to squash drama is with humor.

You could've approached your crush, and if that was brought up, turn it all into a lighthearted joke as in "Bet he was trying to get it for himself! Can't say I blame him, tho." And then switch it to the usual qualifiers. This way, you show that you don't make a big deal out of what anyone says or does, while still demonstrating intent.

You need to know how to diffuse situations confidently, as you may end up getting the same kind of results if you don't.

Also, you can't tell your friend that he messed up within the ladies' earreach. Clear game killer.

As for "talking with someone", that reeks of ASD.

Last but not least, as for trying to "fix" it, don't "fix" anything, just take action. Try to approach her, turn the whole SNAFU in a humorous way, and then proceed to get to know her better. If it works out, you get the girl in spite of all the previous drama, mission accomplished. And if she rejects you, then take it as a learning experience, pinpoint the problems, and find out how you can improve on those.

Pluglord · 2017-05-25T21:14:25+00:00

I don't think she's interested. If she showed more signs of liking you, the situation could be salvaged. But from what I'm hearing, you might need a miracle.

I say let it go.

Madaraa · 2017-05-26T01:24:14+00:00

talking to someone means shes talking to another dude preparing to enter a relationship with them

2017-05-26T03:12:15+00:00

your wing did good, but in life there are no guarantees. you waited an entire year without talking to her, remember that. From this point on don't be embarassed around her, just act normal. If she is interested she will figure out a way to let you know, perhaps through her friends. sometimes a girl will be surprised by interest, then will warm to it and decide to look into it.

Title	My wing fucked up
Author	Imouthere87
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	May 25, 2017 2:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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