I’m (M33) a slightly above average looking, relatively charming “nice guy”. I do ok with chatting to girls both online and offline but I have a very weird habit of getting girls to come back to my place, getting them naked or semi naked only for them to then say no to having sex. I try to persuade them a bit but rarely succeed in changing their mind. It happens so often that it’s a running joke in my friends group, they all have lots of wild theories (they suspect I have a micro penis for example..) but honestly I’m very self aware and I don’t think there’s anything obviously wrong with what I do or say in the build up. My theory is that I come off as too nice a guy and girls see me a more of a long term prospect and so don’t want to put out too early (but this could be very wishful thinking on my part..)

My basic moves at home are sit them on the sofa, glass of wine, some kissing / cuddling and then gradually escalate and get a bit handsy.

Anyway, without pressurising girls into something they don’t want to do what are good responses to typical objections in this scenario (“I don’t want to do anything tonight”, “it’s too soon”, “let’s wait til next time”, “I don’t even know you yet” etc).