Need advice

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-27T11:55:14+00:00

What she doesn't want is spoilers and expectations of what should happen in the next dates/hangouts, and if you ask then she will draw a line in that effectively telling you no kissing/no sex, but that's only if you ask... Why? Because if you ask then you are forcing her to make a choice now, and since she can't promise she will be in the mood when you two meet, she doesn't want to feel like the villian because she promised "sex or kissing was ok next date", and then changed her mind last minute due to not being in the mood...

Also because many guys have expectations that something needs to happen, you don't negotiate what has to ahppen before the date arrives. You go there to seduce her, not to assume she is already seduced.

Because if that happened, you would be mad and accusing her of leading you on, accusing her that she said last time sex or kissing was ok to do, and now she is saying no and that you feel led on... when that was never her intention.

So remember kissing or date is not something you negoitate before a date, either she feels in the date or she doesn't. It doesnt matter what she tells you before the date happens. Because it all depends on her feelings, not on a rule.

Taking things slow usually means emotionally. What she most likely means is:

"Just because we hangout doesn't mean i want you to push me into sex or kissing or a relationship or to talk about labels, or commitments, or for you to try to lock me down... I also don't want you to think that just because we kiss one time, kissing will definetely happen next time as well. Im not saying that it won't, but im not saying that it will and this is because it depends on how i feel and i'd imagine you also need to feel it in the moment, not just plan it a week before. So let's enjoy what is happening, let things unfold naturally without expectations and don't assume we are already commited or exclusive or that something is expected or owed from both of us".

So don't ask her what does she want before the date, and just feel it in the moment when you hang out together.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-07-28T05:58:59+00:00

She told you her boundaries and that she's seeking friendship. Do you want to be her platonic friend?

cousindupree · 2025-07-27T05:51:45+00:00

Go hang out with her and fuck her. "We're not going to have sex." "It just happened." 'happens all of the time.

Altokation · 2025-07-27T05:50:04+00:00

Sounds like you're friendzoned at this point.

There's something you did or didn't do during the interactions so she just sees you as a friend now, as opposed to someone intimate.

When girls say they want to be friends you need to draw a boundary and be willing to walk away, it's a common shit test.

If you actually want a relationship I would just tell her that and say you're looking for different things, and move on.

No_Historian_42 · 2025-07-27T06:54:47+00:00

Creo que su reacción se debe a que pareciste muy urgido, apenas dos días es poco, eso podría ser si la hubieras visto una noche en alguna fiesta, un acoston rápido sin compromisos, aunque eso de invitarte a su depa parece ser un indicador de interés por que esta sola … síguele el juego, que te invite una y otra vez, llegara el momento en que en contexto sea una connotación sexual ( tu, ella, acostados en su cama empezando a hablar de lo que podría pasar sin remordimientos )

NOTA: siempre lleva una tira de condones en tu mochila cuando vallas a verla eso te estimulara pues ya sabes a lo que vas.

ArgsKwargs3131 · 2025-07-27T07:10:18+00:00

I'd act like idc. Keep acting cool and not very open etc. Keep that mysterious masculine aspect

ShawnSimoes · 2025-07-27T07:31:02+00:00

"We're not going to have sex" is only slightly below "Let's have sex" on the hierarchy of things girls say before they're going to have sex with you

Title	Need advice
Author	Crazy_Scientist369
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	July 27, 2025 4:47 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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