Need some advice on whether or not I should put pickup on the back-burner

brickman21 · 2013-10-27T01:07:43+00:00

You can do pickup and pursue other hobbies at the same time. But, if you feel as if other parts of your life need to be prioritized, then do that instead. The thing is, it sounds like you're making excuses to not practice pickup. Maybe you're not, but you really, really have to be honest with yourself here.

Pickup is a great way to make friends and it's also a great hobby. It shouldn't be your only hobby, but it's a good one.

Finally, I have anxiety about going to places like pubs, bars, clubs, parties, and any large social gatherings. I think this stems from my lack of confidence in my social skills and a negative self image.

Maybe, but the only way to get better at your social skills is to practice them. What you can try doing is going to these settings solely with the intent of getting comfortable being there. Don't worry about doing approaches or talking to girls or whatever. Just be in a bar or club or party just so you can used to that kind of environment. Then just slowly work your way up. Rome wasn't built in a day.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-10-27T01:49:50+00:00

You need balance. You should see the first chapter of the old Venusian Arts Manual (now out of print, but available in the usual sketchy online places). It asserts there are three fundamental areas of your life: Health, Wealth, and Love. A lack in any one area affects the others. For example, if you're not healthy you can't work enough to become wealthy. If you don't have money, you can't go out on dates or to clubs and meet women. If you don't have love, you can lose motivation to be wealthy or healthy.

But it works the other way too. Improvement in any one area will help the other areas. You know what they say, "a rising tide lifts all ships." And consider the area Love to include other things than women, like things you love to do, things you're passionate about, that fulfill you.

So what I'm trying to say is, keep balance between those 3 areas of your life. You can't completely skip one area of your life just to focus on another. You become more imbalanced, and more unhappy.

cugar · 2013-10-27T01:55:43+00:00

read/listen to no more mr nice guy, focus on you, girls will come

Title	Need some advice on whether or not I should put pickup on the back-burner
Author	brickman21
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Date	October 27, 2013 1:00 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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