Need some tinder guidance

Epictetus2017 · 2017-11-16T16:58:35+00:00

Concentrate on a place to meet up. Do not talk to her about herself in text, you can do that later in person, focus on logistics. Tinder is not my jam, but people only swipe because they like you. Remember that.

Dates work like this: you, the man do 90% percent of the work. You are the entertainer, she gets entertained. A woman's part of a good date is usually where she just shows up looking smoking hot because she spent time in front of a mirror for an hour just for you. (Though if you ask, she just "threw it together in 5 minutes.")

Pick a public location that allows for easy movement to a more private place if she likes you. Cafe around the corner from where you live, or a bar is ideal.

This is so she can feel you out. Life can be scary when the opposite sex is easily able to overpower you physically. So comfort is important.

Be sure that your intentions are clear and follow your gut. Charm her. Touch her lightly on the hand while talking, escalate physically, but watch her reactions. You want to be her lover, not her friend who has a dick. You want to have her comfortable, not creep her out.

Go for a kiss if you can. Once again, you will know if she wants that. Do not know how? Just copy her tongue movements, cause she probably knows how.

At that point, if chemistry is good (especially if you got a kiss) set up a more private location for immediate intimacy or take her out on a proper date to keep escalating.

By the third date, you should be getting action. She will be expecting that. Always leave a way out for her to exit gracefully. Women want excuses so they do not look remotely like sluts.

"Oh I just went to his house alone to watch tv."

"Yeah we just hung out and looked at art, and listened to music."

As the man, you are the leader in this seduction. You act, she reacts. You are going to be bad at it due to inexperience. But if she actually likes you, women find a way to make it work.

Finally, men and women are meant to be together. We are just wired that way. She wants the same thing you want, just has a different playbook to follow.

Good luck dude.

VinDenim · 2017-11-16T16:42:04+00:00

Almost every tinder date is dtf if you don't suck. I have a 95% rate of first date tinder fucks. Just call her, make her laugh, arrange for something fun to do where you can have a conversation, with good logistics for going home.

I'd like to mention, I've had tinder matches dry up when conversations got very sexual prior to meeting. I presume this is because the girls indulged in something that they found fun, but got anxious that if we met and they didn't actually like me as much as expected, their prior sexual openness would cause me to be too forward. A guy coming on too strong is one of the largest concerns of a girl doing online dating.

So I dunno, maybe some guys may advise you to be sexual and forward, but the method that works for me is just sitting back and letting the girl know that I'm chill for a good while before making a move. This works so well that sex is basically a foregone conclusion when I go on a date.

Puskock · 2017-11-16T15:03:09+00:00

Organise a time and place to meet up. Preferably one of your houses. Then just see how it goes. You'll gain experience no matter how it turns out. Just try to relax (that'll be hard) and try to enjoy yourself (might be hard). Report back afterwards and then we can all talk about how you did :). Best if luck dude and congrats on the tinder bite :D

Elevated_Dongers · 2017-11-16T16:41:55+00:00

Best to meet at a bar or something first. Most girls won't be down to meet a rando at their house unless you have mutual friends or have met before. Also having a few beers in you will help immensely.

PhoenixFlameFire · 2017-11-16T16:42:10+00:00

Meet at a bar near your house. Have drinks. Flirt. Take her home. Profit.

fromCovington · 2017-11-17T19:28:15+00:00

Ive met 5 girls on tinder and fucked 3 on the first date in my car. What i do is i take them for Phö. After we eat the girl usually asks what were gonna do now and i reply were going on a drive. I drive the girls to a cool spot where you can overlook the whole city and it looks amazing at night. I set the mood and initiate making out, clothes come off, rest is history.

Title	Need some tinder guidance
Author	Cluelessbc
Upvotes	13
Comments	12
Date	November 16, 2017 2:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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