Need That Extra Push

Just want to start off by saying that all of your wins and loses have been a pleasure to read and be apart of. This is my first time posting so bear with me. Now, I would like to ask for your advice, as an individual about to turn 30 with little to no experience of the game. When it comes to talking to women and building rapport, that’s something that I can do fairly easily. It’s not something I struggle with or feel anxiety about. However, I must admit that the two things I am absolute dog shit at are the Approach and the Close.

Just like many of you, I get approach anxiety and this has led me to lose pretty much every opportunity to talk and even sleep with an attractive woman. I don’t know why I feel like this but any pointers to get over this would be highly appreciated. I will say my experiences have been just one girlfriend and a one night stand. Out of desperation I have paid for it too, but you soon figure out this is not sustainable financially or emotionally and that there is no real development or improvement to yourself outside of maybe being better at sex. Due to my lack of experience i believe i developed even more anxiety to the approach and quite frankly I’m getting real fucking tired of this. I don’t know why but lately I have been getting extremely mad and frustrated at the fact that I am ruining myself by not taking the first step.

The second issue I have mentioned is the closing. It’s actually funny how bad I am at this. I’ve heard from many of my friends that “you should have kissed” “she was definitely feeling you the whole night why didn’t you kiss her” “did yall kiss or what”. This is something that I struggle with possibly due to a religious upbringing where being sexual is a huge taboo. I try to be a gentleman through and through but it seems like it hurts me more than helps. I do want to remain a gentleman however I cannot deny that I want to absolutely obliterate the back of this attractive lady that stands in front of me. Instead I put myself in the friendzone every-time and I can only blame myself. This must stem from a fear of rejection right?

Creating attractions and being good at seems like something I will learn on the way once I can get past the approach. And the possibilities of sleeping with a woman is nonexistent without the close. Friendzoning myself does not help either. What can I do starting today to improve the approach and the close and stay away from the friendzone? I am aware that since I haven’t even started, this will be something that will take time to improve and I am ready. I can’t deal with this frustration by just jacking off or buying a bitch for the night. I want to progress with women from start to finish and turn this into self improvement to catapult myself forward. I would love to hear all of your stories and testimonies and how you improved. I will take any advice that can get to get started and meet you all at the top. What are some daily exercises I can do to gain exposure and become calm and confident with any woman?

Thank you and enjoy your day fellas!

TLDR; I am terrible at the approach and the close. Am I cooked chat? Please help!