Need to get better on dates

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-09-02T18:01:24+00:00

I personally hate when people say “just be yourself”. But i could look from another angle that it could be true in a sense that:

Guys try too hard to impress the woman that he overthinks stuff. Just be yourself fits in this situation, just relax and enjoy it. This is not an advanced calculus test or a job interview. You don’t have to fake it so you could turn into another guy she’s been dreaming of.
When you’re nervous, either you’re acting awkward or you got too hyped up (too much energy like you said). Again, just be yourself fits in this situation. Getting a pussy tonight is good, but it’s not “$100 million” good. Not getting a pussy is bad, but that’s not “the world is gonna end tonight” bad. Pull yourself together and put things in perspective.

epimpstyle · 2024-09-02T21:30:30+00:00

I think I had too much energy and came across a little weird at first

This is a basic thing, long to explain, but do a Google search on "calibration" and "mirroring" and you will understand exactly what it means to have too much energy when the other person does not.

I also didn't do a great job at escalating (I touched her shoulder slightly a couple times

Ok... but just her shoulder and there were no games with other touches? If she responded well to your touch, why did you not continue?

I'm pretty bad at flirting on dates

If you barely know a girl, you need to test her compliance level and make kino, if everything goes well you can think of something else, but if things don't go well... then your goal should be to get her phone number and not to flirt. It makes no sense to flirt with someone who is not interested in you.

Even on a date, if she is not compliant enough and/or she does not respond well to kino, it makes no sense to flirt, just keep talking to build comfort and relax her before you try again with compliance and kino.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-09-03T06:21:20+00:00

Bottom line is you care more about impressing her than she does impressing you. That's actually not great. If she is equally nervous then that is better. Coming across as you are doesn't convey masculine traits. There isn't a situation where you didn't escalate properly she just isn't into you or your timing isn't great. Guys don't realize that when a girl truly likes you she makes it easy for you to get her.

kimjoe75 · 2024-09-02T19:43:14+00:00

Maybe you just put too much pressure on yourself ? Things should be natural I don’t get why when I’m reading this sub everything has to have a rule like you should to this on the first date, then do this to escalate etc … why not just be natural and let things go ? Maybe you weren’t that much into her and that’s why you didn’t escalate ? Now if you were really into her and really wanted to kiss her / fuck her now you can reflect on this and think of what you did wrong.

Title	Need to get better on dates
Author	CandidMidnight4544
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	September 2, 2024 5:32 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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