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[–]Turbopre2 53 points54 points55 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Men should see rejection as a good thing! Rejection is a part of the process so if yo are not getting rejected then that means you aren't trying.
[–]amb56 35 points36 points37 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
A girl that rejects you is basically doing a favor by being direct with it. You can’t force attraction, so if it’s not gonna happen it’s better to know. It may sting, but it’s better than a girl playing along and being nice to avoid hurting your feelings, despite knowing the attraction isn’t there. Rejection allows you to move on quicker
[–]Extension_Ad2683 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The thing is I'm literally everything smart, hardworking, funny, good looking.... it makes me feel like all the progress I've done on myself has been for nought. That's why it's so sad and maybe because I'm still obsessed with her. Literally why??
Left me on opened too, like im still wondering.
[–]amb56 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude I felt the same way about a straight 10 that rejected me after 1 date recently. Banter was good, lots of touching, making out by the end…. And I got the “didn’t feel a spark” text when I asked when she was free next.
It’s easier said than done but you really gotta learn to not take rejection personally. It absolutely does NOT mean the work you do is all for nothing; it’s simply a fact that not every women is going to be into you. That doesn’t mean anything bad about you! Next girl is right around the corner man.
That is rough that she ghosted you though.
[–]rjones416 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
one less bitch to worry about.
[–]TanishPlayz 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I don't think anyone ever gonna love me except my mom and dad, my dad passed away 3 years ago when I was 15, he loved me the most, like 70% of my life was him, I can't cope up without him anymore, I hate myself now, even tried dating like 3 months ago but got rejected, idk where I'm going towards now, I'm miserable and depressed.
[–]TrueBroccoli8 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Tanish,
Brother, your dad sounds like an incredible guy and an amazing father and it must have felt like the whole rug got pulled out from under your life losing him all of a sudden. Losing such a positive source of affirmation and influence at that age is especially devastating. What I want to say to you is this: because you knew him, you know how it can be when someone who loves you unconditionally affirms and encourages you. Because you knew him there's a chance you can also recognize an exceptional woman someday for having the ability to be that to you as your partner in life. But don't look expecting that 99% of the women you meet are capable of that, and don't feel down when they don't deliver. That's for a committed relationship with someone who's your soul mate. The women your age aren't ready for that. That's serious adult committed relationship shit and it's for later like when you're 27-99 years old. Right now search that out from your friends and find male mentors who are a bit older who have quality of character, who will build you up. At your age, your friends need to be your foundation and let women be the cherry on the top; something fun, and a way to challenge yourself, but never something that your feeling of self worth or happiness hangs in the balance over.
[–]TanishPlayz 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Idk man, I personally don't think I will ever find someone I can truly love + I'm going abroad to study for like 5 years in like 8 months(the only thing I'm worried about), I'm a unsocial guy with no friends, I just go to college, study, and come back, I'm not broken due to the fact I was rejected, I was broken from way before, the ADHD I have is also fucking me a bit, I was just looking for some fun in my life when I tried dating, I know I'm not ready for a committed relationship right now, personally I don't think I'll ever be, would rather spend my life alone. And yes, I loved my dad more than anything in this world, I didn't realized this until he was gone. Also BTW, my mom and dad married at 38, she is 57 right now, lil bit outdated for my taste too :(
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[–]LAHT_ 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is great advice
[–]bDsmDom 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If it's their loss, why the fuck do I feel it?
[–]Popular_Ad3953 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
so true, keep ya head up boys
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
If no woman wants me, how am I supposed to think I have value?
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol exactly
[–]cobraCL7 points 3 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
Your value is inherent and not dependent on women's (or ANYONE'S) opinion. Conquer your low self esteem and you will be treated better by everyone in every sphere of your life.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Why is my value inherent? Isn’t value intrinsically linked to accomplishments?
[–]cobraCL6 points 3 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
If you believe that, you will have a low self worth your entire life. The vicious circle is that low self esteem cripples your capacity to make accomplishments in life, which in turn solidifies your low self esteem. It renders a person too petrified of failure to try, persist, venture or actually even succeed.
RE WOMEN: As long as you link your value to external validation from women, they will not find you attractive.
Firstly, low self esteem breeds desperation which can be detected immediately.
Secondly, women will not respond to approaches that come across as unconfident and fearful, as this "high alert" sets off danger sirens in your target intrinsically. How must a woman trust you if it is apparent that you don't trust yourself? Same principle applies to acing an interview or closing a sale.
Success is an internal game before it is an external game. If you base your value on ANY external event or social approval, you will be "chasing" basic self respect your entire life. And people (women, family, friends, clients, bosses) WILL treat you at your low self-estimate.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You didn’t answer my question. Those are reasons value SHOULD be inherent, not WHY I have value that’s inherent. I don’t think I do, I don’t think my life matters at all and I often wish I was dead
[–]cobraCL1 points 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Would yoy change your perspective if it meant it could save your life?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can’t. The perspective change I need is the belief that I have value and that women desire me when I know for a fact they don’t and have no reason to. There are thousands of normal men with normal social lives they can pick over me. I’ve tried so many times to become normal and I can’t, I likely exist somewhere on the autism or Asperger’s spectrum.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8XYmA\_8-H4
[–]Soy-tu-ex 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happened to me several times, only in online dating, but still, that if things feel right and I propose to meet and they reject me, but I take it cool. After a few days of not talking to them they come back and ask if I still want to meet. And I must admit but It feels so nice to (respectfully) decline them then.
[–]ItsMwen 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have rejected girls before so I understand when I'm rejected.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some chance of rejection is inevitable, you should just lower it to the point where you are comfortable with taking a risk and prize is worth the play.
[–]Key_Huckleberry_3905 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice, been rejected and use too many times but I keep my head up
[–]ineedhelpofmytongue 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And what the fuck are you doing, OP, if you get rejected for the whole lifetime?
See? Your post is stupid, research blackpill and then come back with something witty, because from what it seems, you are trying to fix a demolished building with superglue, which is not working. This is how it works with confidence, too !
[–]megainculu 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I so needed this right now
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
A $100 dollar bill doesn’t even fill the gas tank in this economy.
[–]my-dating-throw-away 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn
ok If I am truly a perfect 100$ bill, why do people pass by me all the time and never pick me up?
rejection doesnt bother me, its the amount of rejection. I dont know if even superman could handle being rejected by everyone he has approached.
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