Now this post is expanding is based on a subtle point which can easily be misinterpreted, so I want to make this very fucking clear. What I'm about to say applies to guys who are already cool, going out and are meeting women consistently. If you are a scrubby dude, anti-social, lonely, no friends.. then this is not the content you should be reading.

I want to start by making a heretical statement about having casual sex with girls.. being too high value is why you aren't getting laid from one night stands and experiencing kinky adventures such as threesomes and bathroom blowjobs.

What tends to happen is when a guy who is becoming self-actualized starts going out is that they will begin to date lots of girls but they don't really seem to go anywhere. Or they will have sex with girls but they will need to endure months of jumping through hoops and enduring a lot of bullshit from the girl in order to get laid.

Now, it might be natural to assume that a girl would fuck a guy quickly that she really, really, really liked. Someone that was just so attractive and dominant that he could overpower her with his status and get laid within thirty minutes of meeting her. That is a massive newbie fantasy which is based on nothing, so no, it's not that. Here's what really happens.

When you start becoming 'your best self', it's easy to talk about the things you're doing with your life, your dreams, goals, the cool friends and hobbies you have, your awesome career or studies. And these ARE all positive things which you should absolutely pursue and im not saying they can't help in getting girls.

The problem is when you come across as so confident and secure with yourself, as well as having the stability and awesome life that a normal guy could provide her girls realize that they have met their PERFECT GUY and she will make you wait for sex.. because she's ultimately looking for a BOYFRIEND just like most guys into seduction are honestly looking for their special girl. So she will throw up all kinds of resistance and play this 'Nice girl' role because she wants to win you over by basically behaving like a virgin and will make a huge deal out of having sex.. because she wants you to invest in her so you stick around. I guarantee most of you who are dating girls have experienced this or are going through this exact same thing. Girls get the badass as well as the sweet guy that's going to take care of them, and really how can you blame them for that?

What I've found works is to let them find out the impressive and betaish things about them after we sleep together. I won't go really into depth about my work, hobbies, friends or interests because again I don't want to fall into that middle ground where I'm uncategorizable and therefore 'Special'.

You don't want to be going around consciously manipulating people's perceptions of you into being a player because that's kinda creepy. The way I do it is through being mysterious and behaving in a way where it wouldn't make sense for us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Most classic game stuff about being aloof, a bit of an asshole, indifferent, teasing etc really works here to avoid the 'Boyfriend zone' that girls will categorize you into. When you stop being so 'Impressive', girls will open up their sexuality because just like you, they want to fool around and have fun.

I had this experience a lot when I lived in a VERY upscale apartment. Girls would be all horny in the club and ready to go, but as soon as they step inside now suddenly they want to date and that 'Nothing was going to happen' because she wants to keep the value coming. When I would pull girls to my friend's Porsche I would get the exact same reaction from girls.

So don't try to be impressive. You want to give her the impression that you wouldn't be needy after sex, which comes from being indifferent, and that you are just that fun party guy so it MAKES SENSE to hook up with you. It doesn't make sense to her to fuck the cool self-actualized guy because you are SPECIAL and she wants to keep you. So save your best qualities and things about you until after you've had sex at least a few times if you want her to stay around.

Again, this is a subtle point which only applies to guys who are already cool and going out, so please do not misinterpret this an excuse for not hustling or being lame.